I’ve met the Queen twice. Once in a cathedral and another time in her garden. I say ‘met’, though neither encounter constitutes what could normally be described as meeting someone. We shook hands in a line-up, all of us dressed a bit funny. Both times I was too self-consciously focused on my own etiquette to use the three or four seconds of our meeting to establish any sort of connection. Remember, “Your Majesty” first, then subsequently “ma’am” which rhymes with spam not palm. I never got to the “ma’am” bit on either occasion. I bowed my head, we shook hands, she said something nice, I smiled and agreed, she smiled and moved on.
I wonder how many times she has done this? 10,000 people a year? For 69 years. Round up a bit. That’s three quarters of a million. A YouGov poll in 2018 found that 31% of the British public said that they have met or seen the Queen. By a long distance, she has been the most met monarch in history. Which is extraordinary given how shy she is. “You were so shy” Prince Philip recalled, thinking of their first meeting. She once told a friend that she was “terrified” of sitting next to strangers “in case they talk about things I’ve never heard of.” She soldiered on anyway.
Fewer people will meet her now. Rest, withdrawal, and slight diminishments are her future. After all, she is 95. More audiences on Zoom, which she won’t like. Back to her Tupperware packed lunches and jigsaw puzzles by the fire. No more gin in the evening, on doctors orders. Her troublesome children to worry about. And now a widow. Her vulnerability only underlining once again how central she remains to this nation.
But this vulnerability has long been a characteristic of her reign. Just 5ft 4, she walks among suited and uniformed men towering over her. The only Prime Minister to ever look her directly in the eye was Margaret Thatcher. She was just 25, little more than a girl, when she acceded to the throne, and 27 when the Archbishop of Canterbury placed the responsibility of the crown upon her head. 277 million people worldwide were gathered round their small black and white television sets.
What they didn’t see was the central moment of the whole ceremony. Then the Queen was disrobed of her crimson cloak and her jewellery removed. Here she sat in a simple white dress on a wooden throne to be anointed by the Archbishop of Canterbury with holy oil, a mixture of ambergris, civet, orange flowers, roses, jasmine, cinnamon, musk and benzoin, ladled from a 12th century spoon. This is when the choir sings ‘Zadok the Priest’, its words extracted from the first Book of Kings, sung at every English coronation since 973 AD. These echoes of the Hebrew Bible are deliberate. She, like Solomon, was dedicated to God. Kings and Queens are supposed to be servants too. In Christian terms, like the servant king who emptied himself of power in order to achieve His most important work.
This bit was too raw for the cameras, the daylight of technology threatening to cheapen the magic of sanctity, to paraphrase Walter Bagehot. The monarchy, he wrote in The English Constitution, was the “dignified” branch of power. Romantic, awesome, sublime. The government was merely “efficient” — cabinet ministers and civil servants chewing pencils and pushing paper.
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SubscribeThis is such a touching article that could probably only have been written by a vicar. It reads like a sermon.
I’m not British but I’ll be sorry when the Queen dies. She is such a positive symbol for her nation and she’s played her role with distinction and great discretion. What tales she could tell…
I agree – and she to my observation is the only person to show decent leadership qualities in this country in 40 years.
Even The Crown, which viciously assassinated the character of every royal, and every conservative prime minister, stayed clear of attacking her too directly.
She represents something valuable that we have lost.
We can choose not to lose the value. Our Queen has a family to continue the tradition.
That’s a wonderful article Giles Fraser, thank you. And God bless the Queen.
The Queen embodies the kind of stoic, duty-led, humble public service that I fear is dying out in our narcissistic self obsessed world. Captain Tom did too bless him. I fear we shall not see their like again.
Deeply insightful, Giles Fraser. You focused on the essence of her role in the anointing and sacred vow at the coronation. Her faith and her profound sense of service have carried her across her natural reticence. They are the essence of who she is. You captured the Queen through a particular and knowledgeable lens that makes sense of her situation now. She will continue to conduct herself with modesty and—as you point out—dignity. How hard it must be to project the magic and retain the humility, and now, to show basic human vulnerability without inviting pity.
Thank you for your wisdom.
From Sally Bedell Smith
God bless you…
Beautiful writing Giles.
Thank you, Giles, for a well-considered, sensitive, thoughtful and accurate piece on our Queen. She will be sorely missed by many, not just here, but across the world, when we no longer have the privilege of having Her as our monarch. As usual, right on the money, “from our own correspondent”!
Extraodinarily beautifully phrased article about our Sovereign. Thank you for it. God save the Queen.
I guess this would count as much as Giles “meeting” the Queen…..In 1995 I was at Newmarket races on a quiet day – bear with me on this – and I walked away from the paddock talking to a colleague about VAT and I bumped into a small lady wearing a headscarf. As I stood back to apologise I said straight to her face “Oh Sorry…. F*ck me it’s the Queen”! She smiled nicely and walked on. My colleague was, unsurprisingly, baffled but carried on talking about VAT.
I often wonder whether I am the only person to have said that to her.
I also wonder whether anyone (especially Amercians) could imagine what must be the most famous woman in the world, casually walking about like that. Obviously there were people with her, but walking behind her. Even as recently as 2019 when she is at the Derby, when she is leaving the paddock she has to queue like everyone else to get out between the horses. It is very odd being in front of her in a queue and not being able to get out of her way. Can you imagine the Californian branch of the Windsor-Markles hanging around with the great unwashed, like that?
Anyway …. the world will be a lesser place when she has passed. Personally I was totally shocked by my emotions when Prince Philip died. Someone who I had never really given a huge amount of thought about and I felt a degree of bereavement (and wonder at the things I read about him). This is just my view but I think, whether you are a monarchist or republican surely everyone can agree that the Queen is a perfect embodiment of what true public service and duty should be.
Beautiful article. We will miss her when she is gone.
I’m no monarchist, but a wonderful, thought provoking article. Thanks!
Me neither (though I’m not so sure about the alternatives), but I seriously respect this Lady.
I always thought myself to be slightly anti-monarchist until I considered just whom we could have had as a First Lady.
None of the wives of the P.M’s I have known even came close. None could do the job as well as HRH The Queen.
I am glad that Giles Fraser writes. I am grateful. Please continue.
Great article, and the benefits of a benign figurehead are amazing.
What a tremendous lady, and it is not surprising the pride that she evokes
Thank you, Giles, for this piece of writing.
Giles Fraser hits a towering home run.
Wow great piece – and anew insight for me about her role.
Its funny reading the American liberal press (Washington Post) which has recently had articles about the Queen due to her health issues. Usually in the comments on articles about HRH, some Americans are appreciative of the Queen but most are scathing because they disapprove of the institutional monarchy system.
However in the recent articles the outpouring of respect and admiration for her is near universal in the comments from Americans. I think people realise that when she goes, we’ll all have lost something, like a global grandparent, whether you agree with monarchy or not.
Yes! I too thought the piece excellent and insightful.
The trick about having the Queen as Head of State was best explained by her late husband, I believe “The Monarch has no power. She merely denies other people power.” A constitutional concept of considerable merit, I reckon.
Even this Irish woman admires the Queen – she was greeted with delight when she was here in 2011. Thank for this beautiful piece about her Giles.
Thank you for this.
It seems odd looking back at all the talk, even decades ago, about how HM would abdicate to allow her son to step in. She never had the slightest intention did she? That oath she took so long ago seems actually have meant something to her. It would have been so easy, so comfortable to step down and have a nice easy time up in Balmoral or wherever suited her. To choose to continue in duty right to the end is impressive, she really didn’t have to.
She really does stand out amongst public figures.
She has been and still is a wonderful Queen. A human being could do no better. The anthem “Long live our gracious Queen” has certainly been answered far beyond what anyone thought. Her faith in Christ has kept her thus far and will surely take her into His presence at the appointed time.
God bless you.
Thanks!
God save the Queen!
God save the Queen indeed!
(and God help us when she’s gone).
What a beautiful, insightful piece. Thank you.
Her father would be proud of her.
I am Canadian and I have seen the Queen twice in Canada though never ‘met’ her. When she is gone I think most of us will be deeply saddened.
‘God save the Queen’, that that will be left to follow does not amount to much.
On the contrary. Prince Charles has matured well.
William and Catherine are also following well.
Charles and the World Economic Forum you mean.
Fraser quotes Bagehot on the “dignified” and “efficient” parts of government; sadly what we have now are the inefficient and undignified parts.
As far as the undignified bits are concerned it was probably inevitable in the end; after all the Royal Family traditionally avoided harm and bad publicity by staying in the company of noble names and grand houses where people asked no questions and mum was always the word. The recent film about Aberfan was interesting in that it was the first time in peace time when the Monarch felt obliged to go out and grieve with ordinary people. Elizabeth did agree to do so and did it well and has continued to do so, but she did not feel that was her role and one can’t imagine Queen Victoria doing so. But from that moment onwards the Royal Family as soap opera was born and the more vulnerablities shown the more the public want them and the cheaper they become. After such knowledge what forgiveness.
As far as the inefficient bits go, there is, quite simply a hole where the head of state ought to be. By head of state I mean someone with the necessary authority to keep the executive in line with constitution and precedence. We have always had what I call the “decent chaps rule” which means that the Monarch would not refuse a request from a Prime Minister but then a decent chap of a PM would not make the sort of request the Monarch might have to stretch his or her conscience over. Queen Victoria would have taken a dim view of Gladstone wanting Parliament prorogued because he wanted to avoid debate but then Gladstone would never have made such request in the first place. Parliament is largely considered by the Government as something which just needs to be informed when it suits you and if you lie, well who can stop you!
It is not the Queen’s fault that this country is in the constitutional muddle it is in, but in it we are and we cannot expect her in her final years to deal with it.
Absolutely beautifully written and so deeply true.
My memory of the monarchy begins, as a toddler, with the two-minute silence for the death of George VI. I still remember the strangeness of West Bromwich High Street just coming to a silent standstill in the blink of an eyelid. I didn’t understand it then. But, we are beginning to understand what we will have lost when she is no longer with us.
A beautiful article and, like the best sermons, has made me stop and think: how am I spending my life?
Thank you,
Her devotion to service, self control and self denial were examples taught to me in school over 60 years ago. They were good lessons. The Queen takes an interest in everyone and everything asked of her. God bless her.
A good article but I would suggest that Giles Fraser should think twice before hugging strangers. To me, that is the only plus of the lockdowns – strangers have not felt that they had the right to kiss or hug me.
Thank you Giles for this very moving, beautifully written piece. I’m not an ardent Monarchist, but I will grieve when the Queen dies.
A lovely and well written piece giles.
Thanks for a touching and enthralling article. Especially the passage on the anointing of the Queen. I was six weeks old at the time of that anointing and struggle to understand the gap between 1953 and 2021. The 1950s were a time of religious growth. Billy Graham was attracting tens of thousands to his rallies on both sides of the Atlantic. The C of E was experiencing one last spurt of growth and optimism before the publication of “Honest to God” and the numerical collapse of the following decades.
What sort of coronation ceremony will Charles enjoy – assuming that he is still alive when his turn comes? The guy who said he wanted to be Defender of Faiths and will still, whether he likes it or not, be the Head of the C of E. What if Prince William is her successor and wants to inflict a woke coronation on us?
Well ‘said’ Giles! This 72yo Australian has always admired her with each decade shedding light (mystical, understanding, joy, reverence) upon the role of monarchy.
Beautiful essay! She is the embodiment of service. We are all blessed by her devotion to her calling as queen. A godly and humane monarch.
Beautiful essay! She is the embodiment of service. We are all blessed by her devotion to her calling as queen. A godly and humane monarch.
I’m American and I’ve always admired Queen Elizabeth. She’s so much better a person than about 99 percent of our politicians.
I’m American and I’ve always admired Queen Elizabeth. She’s so much better a person than about 99 percent of our politicians.
Factually incorrect. Louis XIV reigned for 72 years and 110 days. She has yet to surpass that.
Also her passing will simply serve to highlight the total absurdity of the concept of monarchy as her successor will begin his career somewhere in his late seventies.
What’s in a Reign? She whom we call Queen by any other name would still be Queen.
My Mother was a royalist, and middle named me phillip, I am 99% against all the toffs, but I do see the stabilising societal effect of this as a replacement for religiosity. “God save the Queen” is nonsense – She (and they! – irony here) are stupendously rich and don’t need saving from a mythologic entity.
We are all vulnerable at the moment – to climate and ecological collapse. I admire Prince Charles and Prince William for helping to raise awareness about our reality. Like our queen they are also committed to serving their people. Our celebrity culture plays a big part in the coercive consumer culture which is destroying our world. I admire the fact that our royal family endure the goldfish bowl existence that is foisted upon them. It is likely that at COP26 both Prince Charles and Prince William will show far greater awareness of the existential dangers that we face than any of our political leaders. Continued pursuit of the injustice of growth economics will make the gap between the have and have-nots ever wider until the Sixth Mass Extinction accelerates to embrace us all. At which point all those of us still living will envy the dead and all our glories will be in the past.
What is ‘Zadok’ a euphemism for, and why would you ever want to do that to a priest?
Zadok is a name, derived (I think) from the Hebrew word meaning ‘righteous’
Thank you. So ‘Zadok the Priest’ means
‘Right, yes, the Priest’. Sounds like something Griff Rhys Jones might say in one of his dualoguges with Mel Smith.
You probably know the tune from the champions league. Isn’t there a website where you could discuss that? This one might be a bit cerebral for you.
This article is about compassion, empathy, and kindness. How about showing that, instead of sneering?
On the contrary, UnHerd is absolutely the perfect platform for dad-jokes.
For some reason you put me in mind of Harold Skimpole from Bleak House.
I’ll take that – been compared with worse.
What is a “dualoguges”? From your name it would seem that you are of Indian origin. Perhaps if you were a Brahmin and not an UNTOUCHABLE, you may have more respect for our QUEEN and the head of the CHURCH of ENGLAND…
I like the capitalisations.
At least you can spell that…Sweetie
You don’t seem to understand the context.
Actually a priest in the old testament in the time of King David.
Thank you. We can never forget our Judeo-Christian heritage.
Zadok is a priest in the Jewish scriptures, who anointed Solomon as King of Israel.
Best known now for Handel’s musical setting (“Zadok the priest”) of the relevant biblical passage for his fellow-German George II’s coronation as King of Britain c.1727.
Yes, I did, in fact know. I suppose UnHerd is not the place for purile satire or jokes – which I like to indulge in sometimes.
Pity, I thought people visiting this site were a tad more sophisticated, and didn’t take themselves so seriously. But hey.
“…crucial word is kenosis, which means self-emptying…”
Often wondered why the WC in the first-class restroom at St Pancreas is labelled ‘Kenosis’, well, now I know.
It’s not called St Pancreas, it doesn’t have a first class WC, and if it did it wouldn’t be called a restroom. Apart from that, your laborious humour is on the button
Do you like it when people satirise Hinduism or India ?
I do that absolutely all the time. And I have no special loyalty to Hinduism or India, none.
Did you like Life of Brian?
Ah, ‘The Life Of Brian’, fantastic movie. It seems to get better and more relevant with age. Did you like ‘God Save The Queen’ by the Sex Pistols? Blistering piece of rock n roll from ’77.
Not sure that I agree with some of the sentiments expressed in it, but it certainly jolted people out of their complacency and made them think?
Sadly, I also remember gangs of Teddy boys, (royalists) looking for punks to beat up for maligning the Queen.
Good to see that we’ve moved on. That’s what the wokies do isn’t it, they’re always being ‘affronted’ by micro-aggressions, then they form a mob to take down the lone offender?
P.S. I’d be very surprised if Giles Fraser wasn’t a fan of the Python’s, or the Pistols, or both.
I thought the punk music of the seventies was great, the Sex Pistols made some decent music, and ‘God Save The Queen’ was indeed iconic, although I can’t say I bought into any of the ‘politics’, such as it was, of any of the pop movements or artists. I in fact am not remotely anti-royalty, in the same way that I am not remotely pro-monarchy – I just view these things as accidents of history, although it is clear ERII has a deep sense of responsibility and duty which is something I can certainly buy into.
It was just the hagiography by a member of the religious establishment instinctively provoked in me a few purile religious jokes, because the idea of an english vicar saying something that anyone might consider remotely profound just brings out the giggles in me, I’m sorry I can’t help it, probably caused by watching too many vicar sketches by comedians like Emery and Dave Allen and Not The Nine O’clock News etc.
I am grateful for the kind words of your comment; as for the downvotes, it is as you say the spirit of these tribal times, although I’m not at all fussed because just as much as I have a right to take the mick out of religions (or should), so they should have the right to express their disapproval of me doing so.
I guessed as much, good reply.
Try reading the Sun or the Mirror. more your level
Yes sir, will do right away. When should I report back to you?
Your title is stupid and unpleasant, but your article is much better.
The authors don’t get to write the titles.