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Emily Ratajkowski’s empty feminism Her book doesn't prove she's more than a pretty face

"A facility for defending objectification." Credit: Angela Weiss/AFP/Getty

"A facility for defending objectification." Credit: Angela Weiss/AFP/Getty


November 9, 2021   5 mins

Maybe there’s nobody better to critique objectification than Emily Ratajkowski. After all, the 30-year-old model has spent nearly a decade being one of the most lusted-after women in the world. In 2013, the video for Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” made her famous for showing her tits. After that, she became — as she puts it in a recent video for the New Yorker — “the poster child for choice feminism”, always ready to explain why showing her tits was the “empowering” thing to do.

And now, as the author of a new essay collection entitled My Body, she’s taken it upon herself to explain that showing your tits can in fact lead to being exploited thanks to what she calls “the cis-hetero patriarchal construct that we live in”. Predictably, perhaps, her hotness — the thing which made her valuable and gave her a feeling of power — has turned out to be something she can neither own nor control.

“I have learned that my image, my reflection, is not my own,” she wrote in a piece for New York Magazine last year called “Buying Myself Back”. This is literally true in a way that feels intuitively disturbing. Copyright law gives more weight to the person who creates a picture than it does to the person who appears in it — the essay describes her efforts to purchase her own image. Even when the law might have been on her side, enforcing it through the courts was so expensive as to be practically impossible.

And so an artist could turn a photo from Ratajkowski’s Instagram into a “painting” and resell it for tens of thousands of dollars, but when Ratajkowski posted a paparazzi shot of herself to her feed, she was threatened with a legal bill from the agency. And when — after she’d gone from working model to global superstar — a photographer she worked with early on in her career turned nude photographs of her into a series of books, Ratajkowski could do nothing to stop him.

The violation, in her telling, went deeper than image rights: she says that the photographer sexually assaulted her following the shoot (he denies this). She’s also accused Robin Thicke of groping her during the filming for “Blurred Lines”. The concept for the video — three barely-dressed women dancing around three fully-suited men — was supposed to be a satire on the song’s dirtbag celebration of the male gaze, as conceived by the female director. But when the lyrics of a song are telling a “good girl” that “you know you want it”, perhaps it’s unsurprising that not everyone involved appreciated the difference between ironic toplessness and just plain toplessness.

In 2016, Vogue published a listicle of “All the times Emily Ratajkowski fought the patriarchy”, with “being comfortable with nudity” at number two. Now we discover that the patriarchy has always been perfectly comfortable turning her nudity back against her. Essentially, Ratajkowski has had to take a public lesson in something that many women learn quietly between the ages of 20 and 30: the “empowerment” you get from being wanted by men is nothing at all like actual power.

It’s unfair to criticise Ratajkowski for that. But it’s more than reasonable to ask how she ever got a reputation for patriarchy fighting when her fame has always been grounded in her facility for defending objectification. In the summer of 2013, “Blurred Lines” became a flashpoint for the nascent conversation about sex and consent which would — eventually — tip over into #MeToo. To feminist bloggers, the song’s jovial sleaze sounded “rapey”, and the video underlined that: they didn’t hear a party anthem, they heard dangerous propaganda.

In the end, only one person did well from it. Thicke’s career rapidly sank into ignominy, with righteous onlookers gleefully cheering as he lost a copyright case over the song, suffered a ruinous divorce and finally sank into commercial obscurity. But after “Blurred Lines”, Ratajkowski was everywhere: GQ anointed her “the girl who stole summer”, and sent Terry Richardson to photograph her in full pop-art porno style. (It would be another four years before the rumours of sexual abuse against Richardson finally sank him.)

Ratajkowski looked phenomenal, of course. But it was what she had to say that made her a sensation. For the women’s press, she offered a version of feminism which came — conveniently — with absolutely no hard choices at all. “I feel lucky that I can wear what I want, sleep with who I want, and dance how I want, and still be a feminist”, Cosmopolitan quoted her as saying. What feminism might involve beyond having sex, dancing and wearing or not wearing clothes — and how it might relate to a woman whose primary problem is not the efficient exploitation of their own hotness — was very little discussed.

Meanwhile, male profile writers swooned over the fact that she appeared to be not only hot but smart. Later, she would summarise this kind of journalism contemptuously as “she has breasts and claims to read”, but — gross as it was to read interviews which breathlessly described both her peerless body and her taste for literature in translation — there’s no question that she did well from this coverage. It catapulted her from being one more model to being the ultimate fantasy girlfriend, with roles in Gone Girl and Entourage. She wasn’t just a piece of ass. She was a very articulate piece of ass.

And what she articulated was what many men wanted to hear: not objections but willingness. When Piers Morgan mocked her for writhing around in spaghetti and tomato sauce in a shoot for the magazine Love, she shot back with a mini-dissertation on female agency: “The way I dress, act, flirt, dance, have sex — those are my decisions and they shouldn’t be impacted by men… My life is on my terms and if I feel like putting on sexy underwear, it’s for me. Personal choice is the core ideal in my concept of feminism.”

Rousing stuff, although perhaps it’s worth pausing to ask how many women would choose to roll around in a gallon of marinara if there weren’t a financial incentive involved. “Men act and women appear,” wrote John Berger in Ways of Seeing in 1972. “Men look at women. Women watch themselves being looked at. The surveyor of woman in herself is male: the surveyed female.” Ratajkowski’s talent — even more than the genetic lottery of her looks, more than a knack for posing — was for embracing her role as the surveyed while giving voice to the surveyor.

She was an object with the fortuitous gift of speaking only to say how happy she was to be objectified, although this was very much a performance, she says now. In an interview with the Sunday Times, she explains that she eventually came to wonder “if I was so powerful and felt so great about how I had succeeded, then why was I unhappy, sometimes more than unhappy — anxious — about going to work?” My Body is the product of that reckoning, and it may well be sincere but it’s also a pivot that conveniently aligns her with the shifting mood around how we talk about sexualisation.

But if Ratajkowski’s earlier version of “feminism” was individualistic and self-serving in celebrating choice as the ultimate political good, her new approach seems equally solipsistic. She writes about herself, and how far one model’s experience of objectification can be extended to become a universal representation of female experience seems doubtful. Dropping a Dworkin quote next to a bikini shot doesn’t exactly suggest a rigorous engagement with feminist thinking. I suppose one way of neutralising the “she has breasts and claims to read” approach is by proving you haven’t read very much.

Look at her Instagram, and you’ll see that her newfound grasp of power and image hasn’t stopped her posting photos where she’s fellating lollipops or just a rack. This isn’t politics. It’s positioning for the next stage in a career that has always depended on offering enough self-commentary to clothe softcore visuals in intellectualism. There are plenty of people with far more profound takes on objectification, but less impressive bodies. Ratajkowski gets a hearing, though, because she’s still the supreme object.


Sarah Ditum is a columnist, critic and feature writer.

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Hersch Schneider
Hersch Schneider
3 years ago

She surely is the global icon of boring, shallow narcissism masquerading as female empowerment

Aldo Maccione
Aldo Maccione
3 years ago

“i’m entitled to show my t!ts whenever i please, but don’t you dare enjoy them, you misogynistic pig.”

Cat Fan
Cat Fan
3 years ago

Bingo. I may be sticking my neck out a bit here, but I’d be willing to bet that the number of young girls watching the ‘Blurred Lines’ video and going ‘wow, I feel so empowered by this display of female nudity by highly attractive young women dancing around in front of appreciative, fully clothed, older men!’ was outnumbered, grossly, by the number of young men furiously grappling with their zippers and vigorously one-hand-fapping. Sorry, clapping.

JP Martin
JP Martin
3 years ago

My very antiquated opinion is that it would be better if models and actors said nothing to keep some mystery.Their banal opinions invariably diminish their effect. Still, they all seem to choose the path of relentless overexposure. The prime example is the odious Meghan Markle who was given an offramp from tacky celebrity but chose to double down on this sort of vulgarity.

Ethniciodo Rodenydo
Ethniciodo Rodenydo
3 years ago
Reply to  JP Martin

God occasionally bestows good looks and occasionally brains but very rarely on the same person

Andrew Dalton
Andrew Dalton
3 years ago

I used to think it was a good thing that brains and beauty on the same person was rare. Hitting the genetic lottery jackpot and all that. Now I wonder if it is in fact a problem.
Although we could mitigate this problem if those of us with (hopefully) brains, ignored those without.

Malcolm Knott
Malcolm Knott
3 years ago

I like to think you’re right but I have in fact met some very good-looking people who were also extremely bright. Life ain’t fair.

David Batlle
David Batlle
3 years ago
Reply to  Malcolm Knott

Some, but not many. In most cases, good looks mitigates against developing other qualities.

Ethniciodo Rodenydo
Ethniciodo Rodenydo
3 years ago
Reply to  Malcolm Knott

And they wonder why life is so difficult for the rest of us

Alison Tyler
Alison Tyler
3 years ago

Depends what you want out of life and how obliging circumstances + luck + our own efforts and talents have been for any of us. Not always something over which we ave control.

Lesley van Reenen
Lesley van Reenen
3 years ago

I find her unlikable and I cannot identify with her angst. She wants to get her kit off for a lot of money and behave like a sex kitten …. live with the consequences.

Katharine Eyre
Katharine Eyre
3 years ago

Yes, that is rather my feeling about her too. You want to strip off and flaunt your body for a living? Go right ahead! Enjoy the fame and fortune! Feminism is about personal choice. But it’s also about accepting the (reasonable) consequences of those choices – and that’s where I think Ratajkowski comes unstuck.
She was also at the centre of one of the dafter body crazes in recent years, the “ab crack”, i.e. a clear cleft running down the middle of your abs. It was right up there with the “thigh gap” in the ranks of stupid things that women have been told they “need” to be desirable.

Jon Redman
Jon Redman
3 years ago
Reply to  Katharine Eyre

The ab crack is the linea alba, which often gives away steroid use by male bodybuilders. When they take all those hormones everything gets larger including their intestines. This eventually forces their abs apart and eventually results in guys with 1% body fat, a 43″ waist and a linea alba you can fir your hand into.
Re Emily Whatsherface and her line of work generally, it has always struck me that being in porn is on the prostitution spectrum and maybe so is this. If you have sex or are photographed to be leered at for money, how are you not a prostitute?

John Riordan
John Riordan
3 years ago
Reply to  Jon Redman

There isn’t a prostitution spectrum. You either provide sexual intimacy to others for money, or you don’t.

David Morley
David Morley
3 years ago

 “I feel lucky that I can wear what I want, sleep with who I want, and dance how I want, and still be a feminist”,

ahh yes – all those essential human freedoms, so oddly absent from Mill’s On Liberty.

John Riordan
John Riordan
3 years ago

At least Ratajkowski is gamely making an attempt to square her well-paid exhibitionism with feminist principles, and I suspect to be honest that it is no longer possible to maintain a celebrity career by simply admitting that her career is mostly dependent upon gratifying the male gaze and telling everyone to suck it up if they don’t like it. Women in this line of business now have to adopt the facade of feminine empowerment in order to remain inside the bien pensant collective. If we’re going to criticise anyone, it should be the people in that collective who operate one of the stupidest and most risible emperors-new-clothes cultural systems we’ve ever witnessed.

Frankly I have far more of a problem with that tedious muppet who JK Rowling made famous, Emma Watson, who went full-on judgemental feminist in her teens, then was photographed near-topless, and couldn’t honestly work out what the problem was, having snobbishly condemned Page3 models for years. She was a perfect demonstration of the hypocrisy behind the idea that it’s not what you do that matters, it’s whether or not its done with the blessing of the self-appointed culture police.

Last edited 3 years ago by John Riordan
peter lucey
peter lucey
3 years ago

I confess that I had never heard of Ms Ratajkowski before this article.

AC Harper
AC Harper
3 years ago

Men act and women appear,” wrote John Berger in Ways of Seeing in 1972. “Men look at women. Women watch themselves being looked at. The surveyor of woman in herself is male: the surveyed female.”

I thought this was the most insightful part of the article, which is echoing someone else’s words.
My local Marks and Spencers has almost 90% of its clothing floorspace devoted to womens’ clothing. The mens’ clothing has been relentlessly compressed over the years. Similarly if you look at the magazine rack in a large newsagents most of the womens’ magazines have a picture of a tidy looking woman on the cover. Most of the mens’ magazines have pictures of things (trains, cars, electronics).
Is this an example of the ‘patriarchy’ exploiting women or is it provision of things that women wish to buy?

David Morley
David Morley
3 years ago

Dropping a Dworkin quote next to a bikini shot doesn’t exactly suggest a rigorous engagement with feminist thinking.

No, but it does suggest an unrecognised, and wholly unconscious, talent for irony.

Last edited 3 years ago by David Morley
George Glashan
George Glashan
3 years ago
Reply to  David Morley

i hope to god it wasn’t Dworkin in the bikini

Lloyd Byler
Lloyd Byler
3 years ago

“I post my silicone enhanced breasts prominently in photographs, but men should not just focus on them.”

[Girl shakes head and wonders why men are so superficial]

[A unique, and rare, non-superficial man, tells his girlfriend to tone down the breast display with her clothes/lack of clothes]

[Girlfriend berates her boyfriend for ‘telling’ her what to do]

(And we wonder why decent honorable men loathe feminism?)

Julian Farrows
Julian Farrows
3 years ago
Reply to  Lloyd Byler

This is a struggle that predates recorded history:
From Milton’s Paradise Lost – Eve blaming Adam for their fall from grace:

Being as I am, why didst not thou the Head

Command me absolutely not to go,

Going into such danger as thou saidst?

Too facil then thou didst not much gainsay, Nay, didst permit, approve, and fair dismiss.

Hadst thou bin firm and fixt in thy dissent, Neither had I transgress’d, nor thou with mee.

To whom then first incenst Adam repli’d, Is this the Love, is this the recompence

Of mine to thee, ingrateful Eve, exprest

Immutable when thou wert lost, not I,

Who might have liv’d and joyd immortal bliss, Yet willingly chose rather Death with thee: And am I now upbraided, as the cause

Of thy transgressing? not enough severe,

It seems, in thy restraint: what could I more? I warn’d thee, I admonish’d thee, foretold The danger, and the lurking Enemie

That lay in wait; beyond this had bin force, And force upon free will hath here no place.

Dan Gleeballs
Dan Gleeballs
3 years ago
Reply to  Julian Farrows

Quoting Milton?! This is why I subscribe.

Douglas McNeish
Douglas McNeish
3 years ago

Pretty simple really. Woman manipulates and exploits male libido for ego and bank account gratification, but must do so while fending off disapproving “sisters,” so adopts narrative that sexploitation is in fact an act of solidarity with feminist sisterhood that strikes a blow at the patriarchy. Gratification continues.

David Batlle
David Batlle
3 years ago

BINGO

Terence Fitch
Terence Fitch
3 years ago

Anyone else bothered to do more than idly skim this? Ditum is just trying to pump out a few words but this empty airhead social media world is…empty. Trying to analyse it ends up in bathos so I’ll stop too. In the motto of the social media inarticulati : ‘I have no words’.

Hersch Schneider
Hersch Schneider
3 years ago
Reply to  Terence Fitch

I didn’t manage to complete the first paragraph. A pointless article about a non-entity

Judy Englander
Judy Englander
3 years ago
Reply to  Terence Fitch

The only words I could come up with are: is there no end to this degeneracy?

Jon Redman
Jon Redman
3 years ago
Reply to  Terence Fitch

Agree, she could have written the same article about any number of women who pout at cameras for money.

Ferrusian Gambit
Ferrusian Gambit
3 years ago
Reply to  Terence Fitch

I mainly came here to the comments in the hope someone would point out this.

AC Harper
AC Harper
3 years ago

It’s regularly rehearsed opinion that men compete with other men to establish their status and gain access to women, or retain that access.
A less regularly rehearsed opinion is that women compete with other women to establish their status and gain access to men, or retain that access. They can compete by dressing and undressing to impress, or by retelling stories about how wonderful their children or grandchildren are (but rarely their husbands).
We are a social species and social status is an important part of what it is to be human.

James Joyce
James Joyce
3 years ago

Utter rubbish! I enjoy and pay for the completely stupid writing that occasionally appears here as much as the next non-birthing person, as it gives me a chance to publicly trash the author–and in this case, the subject of this tosh–and show how superior I am. Thank you, Sarah, for the opportunity.
Bravo to the commentators below who have done such a good job of trashing author and subject. They deserve it. No one needs to shed a tear for Emily if she does or does not decide to show any body part.
On to the next one….

David Morley
David Morley
3 years ago
Reply to  James Joyce

The most pap on the subject of paps I think I’ve ever read.

Raymond Inauen
Raymond Inauen
3 years ago

Oh, the poor model who posts on Instagram complaining that she’s being used? Really now? This topic is so boring. Let’s meet some real “wom*n”, or should we say gender neutral people with really important lives and stories? Now go away, as Critical Drinker says!

David Batlle
David Batlle
3 years ago

Thanks to feminism I had more meaningless sex in my 20s and 30s than Casanova or Henry the 8th. This is far from a boast, as I am nothing special.

No wonder that according to the Happiness Index, that has been taken since the 60s, men’s happiness has been going up steadily, while women’s happiness has been going down.

Feminism, a far greater gift to men than to women.

Last edited 3 years ago by David Batlle
Julian Farrows
Julian Farrows
3 years ago
Reply to  David Batlle

This a millions times. I had so much fun, I waited until I was nearing 40 to get married. Saying that, I wouldn’t want to be in my 20s now. It’s not the same world it was in the 1990s.

David Morley
David Morley
3 years ago

the cis-hetero patriarchal construct that we live in

and after the revolution, when said construct has been destroyed, we can all look forward to a time when women will be able to show their breasts without shame, and men will be able to look at them without guilt.
But presumably no one will actually want to!

Jane Purcell
Jane Purcell
3 years ago

Given that about 70% of non-fiction is ghostwritten I doubt she wrote that book herself.

John Riordan
John Riordan
3 years ago

“I feel lucky that I can wear what I want, sleep with who I want, and dance how I want, and still be a feminist”

I’m no feminist myself, but I have to point out that this is not actually a problem. What would be the point of feminism if it restricted women from being free in this way?

Note: I am not suggesting that feminism demands that women behave this way or ought to, or that women whether feminists or not should behave this way (the important difference between can and should); merely that if the effect of feminist principles is to restrict women’s freedom, then what the hell is it for?

Last edited 3 years ago by John Riordan
Red Reynard
Red Reynard
3 years ago

 “I feel lucky that I can wear what I want, sleep with who I want, and dance how I want, and still be a feminist”,
Of course you did, and there was nothing wrongheaded in that. However, what you are entering now is called ‘adulthood’. And you now have the ability to look backwards (albeit only a little), and think “Oh crikey!”
So, here’s a tip from a ‘longtooth’, accept the things you did with humility, for they are the things that have molded you into the nascent human being you are…Oh, and you’l still be able to look back and have many more “Oh crikey!” moments as you move forwards in this wonderful life.

Jon Hawksley
Jon Hawksley
3 years ago

You do not own what other people see. The only thing you own is what is inside your own head. To make that a welcoming place to be you need to take account of how other people are likely to react to your behaviour and take responsibility for how you react to their response to your behaviour. Taking offence at other peoples reaction to you creates problems for yourself and achieves very little. We can invest time in making interactions with other people more rewarding and hope they do the same but you need to be robust when they do not. If you get it wrong keep away from social media until it provides a filter that removes the sort of things you do not want to see.

Dan Gleeballs
Dan Gleeballs
3 years ago

Some of the comments – and the article – are pretty harsh. She has a certain amount of power and influence because of her unusual physical beauty. Hence articles like this written about her. She has used that platform to discuss choice and feminism – subjects that interest her. All fine so far.

Falling on those opinions from a great height seems a bit petty to me. Even pointing out that her arguments aren’t quite as robust as something Jordan Peterson might have created. So? Why are we all so viciously critical? She’s clearly a LOT brighter than some models and trying to do something more interesting than just being a clothes horse for fashion houses.

Well, good for her. If she were my daughter, I’d be very proud.

Ian Stewart
Ian Stewart
3 years ago

I like the song Blurred Lines, it’s lyric and the video. In a simple ditty presented in the style it is, it raises lots of conflicting points. Brilliant.

Penny Adrian
Penny Adrian
2 years ago

Her talent “was for embracing her role as the surveyed while giving voice to the surveyor.” Brilliant!

Penny Adrian
Penny Adrian
2 years ago

Her talent “was for embracing her role as the surveyed while giving voice to the surveyor.” Brilliant!

MJ Reid
MJ Reid
3 years ago

Why do men go topless? And why do the majority look pregnant when they do it?

There is the argument that because people were born in their birthday suit, they should be allowed to wear said suit when it is too hot for clothes. Unfortunately, far too few people look good in said suit for a number of reasons and so everyone should desist. More comfortable for everyone. That is my feminism as it was my mother’s and grandmothers’.