I am glad that mental illness has become less stigmatised in the past few years. Saying you’ve had a bout of depression should not be any different than saying “I had a throat infection” or “I broke my wrist”. The fact that depression is less obvious outwardly than physical maladies should not be a source of fear or judgment.
The wrong turn is when someone truly identifies with the illness and it becomes part of them. I cannot see how this helps to overcome the problem, as once you have accepted that it is part of you – you are in effect saying “I want this to stay”.
By referred to his episodes of mental illness as “the black dog”, Churchill externalised the issue. It wasn’t part of him, rather a familiar figure that would occasionally turn up and cause pain, but then go away again. I’m absolutely sure that this formed part of his extraordinary resilience – he overcame it in the past, he would do again. The black dog would eventually leave.
A world that doesn’t stop at de-stigmatising mental illness but goes on to positively fetishise it and present it as a possibility for earning some serious dosh is encouraging that kind of identification.
In the past there must have been the same issues with mental health but nobody said anything about it because of the associated stigma. This alone must have helped people to fight their problems by just going through the everyday rhythms of life. Was this a good thing?
The answer must be in the numbers. If <1% of people have such problems it might be just manageable. If 50% of people have the problems our whole civilisation will just stop. You will need every other person to be a psychiatrist and even they will need psychiatrists. We will be swamped.
So, here is the real issue. If <1% have problems, perhaps they can be treated but if a further 10% jump on the bandwagon because they can't be bothered to tough it out, then the 1% will not get proper treatment. (The queues in A&E get longer for heart attack patients because the doctors are working on childrens' colds).
Chris, yes, this was what prompted me. This was edited: ‘ If we discover that we’ve all got mental health issues – as seems likely, such is the velocity of this epidemic – who’s going to look after us? Not so much the blind leading the blind as the sad leading the mad.’
No, I don’t think for a moment that you are being callous. But have you noticed that we are sparing a lot of feelings nowadays? Who decides which feelings should be spared and which shouldn’t? Is there an omnipotent Mr UnHerd sitting above us? What colour is he? Or is it Ms UnHerd?
Major trauma was much more frequent for previous generations – child mortality, war, untreatable disease, industrial accidents, ‘pawning-shoes-for-food’ level poverty, physical hardship.
So when I see modern reports of one third of the population having some form of mental problem in a 12 month period, I wonder how now can really be so much worse than the past? Have we over medicalised and industrialised mental health as an issue? Are we too comfortable, and too focused on feelings and the need to feel good, instead of building resilience and emotional strength?
I think we are certainly too focused on feelings; hence the increasing view that no-one should offend us. That when no offence is intended, we can choose to take offence or not, is no longer recognised.
Maybe routine life threatening situations are good for mental health. Perhaps they keep things in perspective or, as Johnson said, concentrate the mind wonderfully.
Lesley van Reenen
2 years ago
As in other things, society over-corrects and goes far too far. (Think Wokeism as an example). It is a fact that previously people with mental problems were regarded in kind of two sets of people – a) the mad people and then b) the people with no bottle and resilience. Obviously this was far too facile. We know that people can suffer from definable mental illnesses that need to be acknowledged and treated. Also depression and anxiety can have physical manifestations that can be debilitating. But now we have millions of young people who seem to be mentally fragile because they almost want to be? Help me here!
We have millions of young people who cannot tell the difference between things that hurt them and things that hurt their feelings, and things that hurt their egos. As a direct consequence of this, ‘getting over’ bad things is pretty much permanently off the menu, because they have no distinct separation between their feelings and their selves.
And, unfortunately, they can end up in the feedback loop from hell — in an effort to be happier, they try being more caring, and more compassionate, and find more and more and more things to feel anxious and unhappy about. The notion that the ideal amount of caring and compassion might be at some level they have overshot a long time ago does not occur to them.
You forget just how many of them come from defective families.
Which includes one-child families.
We have given young people a rat-race hell to grow up in, where only personal success counts – we then complain about their fragility and anxiousness !
Jon Redman
2 years ago
Sympathy about the tinnitus. I’ve had mine for 22 years; it sounds like a whistling kettle. There’s no cure, and none of the advertised quack remedies works, but certain things help.
One is to have constant background music or sound. You focus through and past the ringing in your ears, and on to the music, much as when you wear glasses, you don’t notice the glasses. Caffeine makes some people’s tinnitus worse; alcohol makes some people’s tinnitus worse; try cutting this kind of stimulant out for a week to see if it makes a difference for you.
Spicy food, the hotter the better, makes mine quieter. Nobody can explain to me why this works, but the thing that makes chillies hot is an agent called capsaicin. As well as suppressing the cough reflex, capsaicin is also an anti-depressant; it’s why you feel cheerier after a curry. It may be a factor here, or it may not. Other natural anti-depressants (St John’s Wort notably) have no effect on tinnitus at all because they are actually stimulants.
Good luck. You have to train yourself gradually to stop noticing. You can’t make it go away completely, but you can make it matter less.
Mental illness has always been around, but there are three reasons why it’s such a pestilence here in today’s West
-. The disappearance of the extended family; there’s no longer a cousin or whoever to buoy you up when you’re going through a rough patch
-. The semi-disappearance of social and civic organisations that bring people out of themselves and enable them to forget their troubles
-. The fact that our modern world is so depressing and depressed, so lonely and atomised, to start off with: in other words, is a very low base to start off from.
Caroline Watson
2 years ago
What annoys me most is the people who say, ‘I suffer from mental health’ or, simply, ‘I have mental health’.
My reaction is, ‘We all have mental health. ‘Health’ is a neutral or positive term. If you are suffering, you must have a mental illness. Which one is it?’ They never know.
My other reaction is, ‘You are also illiterate’.
Brilliant article, Julie. You are a breath of fresh air. One of the best writers on mental health and, in particular, depression, is the late Dr Dorothy Rowe. She’s clear eyed, down to earth and the very opposite of (judging from the brief quotes you gave) The Comfort Book – yuk!
“Mental Health” (current usage) entered the vocab at least couple of years ago.
E.g in 2019: A man at the bus stop was shouting abuse at the driver who had stopped and was slow to put the ramp down, and the woman with him was shouting, in explanation, I guess: “Mental Health! He’s Mental Health!”
Living abroad as I do I notice when words or phrases come into vogue in English. ‘Mental health’ was one of them. I noticed how people gradually realised that this was a phrase that could get them what they wanted in the way of attention and perhaps more tanglible benefits.
But much more worrying is: ‘criminals are being spared jail for the sake of their mental health’. There has been a case of France of a young Muslim who threw an elderly Jewish woman out her window but who was judged incapable of criminal responsibility because of his mental state (he was also under the influence of drugs). This is terrifying.
Howard Gleave
2 years ago
Nice to read you again, Julie. My mother committed suicide when I was 11 but my father, who must have been devastated, kept the show on the road, brought up 3 children on his own, and taught me a lifelong lesson in getting back on your feet and turning tragedy into positive energy. Do I think about that day often. Yes. But I refuse to let it define me.
Brendan O'Leary
2 years ago
I thought something might might be coming when I saw Mental Health acquiring capitals and becoming a buzz-phrase about 2018. Something like the HSE establishment and the psych lobby expanding their remit and demanding more funding and powers to intrude.
I didn’t expect it would get this bad.
I have to ask: Did you really read to the end of that book? It looks unreadable.
Just like with the Wokeism and MeToo-ism, the grievances were real, but the pendulum swung too far the other way. The veneration of the victim is common to all, making victimhood attractive, and easier than facing one’s own issues. At the end of the day, not easier, of course. Plus, as you say Julie, one can follow the money too. The book you quoted from is so bad it’s funny. A gravy train of anxiety and depression! What madness (and pun was not intended)!
Tony Buck
2 years ago
Resilience – Toughness – is largely a matter of genetics. It can’t be taught, still less self-taught.
Nor is it clear-cut; some Tough people are brittle, some Tender people enduring.
Val Colic-Peisker
2 years ago
Well said Julie! As a non-native of Australia and knowing a bit about non-Anglospheric parts of the world, I’ll just add that the Anglosphere is way in front of everyone else with the phenomenon of fetishising mental illness and a decreasing resilience, especially in young people. Outside the Anglophere, people have a more sensible approach to all this, even in those countries who can afford this kind mollycoddling, let alone those who cannot.
Tony Taylor
2 years ago
Prior to the 18th of June I had never heard of Charles Taylor. That’s now three times I’ve read an article in which he’s mentioned.
Judy Johnson
2 years ago
I agree that some have mental health issues and some do not and am in complete agreement with what Julie writes about the Sussexes and the Windsors. However, I do not feel competent to asses who can and should be helping themselves and who genuinely needs help.
Tony Buck
2 years ago
Humanity is divided between those whose craziness takes an emotional form (“mental illness”) and those whose craziness takes a behavioural form – smoking, drink, drugs, shopping, dangerous driving, sexual addiction etc etc.
Mark Gourley
2 years ago
Well said as always, Julie. And as for Mr Haig’s book, I am sure it will soon be for sale on Amazon at 17p a copy like much else of its kind.
Cheryl Jones
2 years ago
Most of the time in our narcissistic modern world, talk about mental health problems seems either a. attention seeking b. an excuse not to take responsibility c. an expression of perpetual infantilism. Harsh perhaps, but I think it’s the truth.
Tony Buck
2 years ago
Mental illness assumes different forms in different eras.
E.g. the heavy drinking-to-oblivion in Victorian Britain.
E.g, all the political lunatics in the 1930’s who went round in coloured shirts attacking other gangs of political lunatics.
Alka Hughes-Hallett
2 years ago
I DO think that today’s world is much more complex & complicated compared to previous generations. I DO think mental illness is to do with LACK of physical illness or suffering of the past. In the past lack of consumer goods & services & lack of physical pleasures was the way to remain strong in the mind too. A STRONG STRIVING BODY FED A STRONG MIND . There was less time to woe and weep.
So, in some ways I agree with the author that we will need to strengthen our resolve and to force our way out of our descend into mental illness but I disagree that it was harder then. It’s MUCH harder now. The wealth ( dole, the belief that has been put into us that we can do ANYTHING, millions are made out of thin air ), health on tap ( the likes of NHS & the belief that life can go on forever without pain, ease of life (consumerism, instant satisfaction with ever cheaper goods, the social media) . Our past did not have ANY of this. The wealth was mostly physical & tangible and came after MUCH striving. The health was hugely dependent on wealth. Our forefathers just died when illnesses could not be cured easily or your body was not up for fighting the illness . Today we refuse to be ill & to live with physical pain. We have even found ways to cheat death.
I think mental suffering will take the place of physical suffering of the past. Our minds are tortured by the stuff , more stuff & endless searching for pleasure. Physical suffering is in our biology, failing which, the mind will start to become ill. Also there have never been a time like this before. 7b people to become 9b. How to make sense of that ? I can see why our children will have to worry about mental health in the future. Only in the last 100 yrs the world has changed a 10000 fold both in quantum & in quality.
It’s wrong to say that the younger generation today is spoilt. It’s fair to say that WE have spoiled our young without thinking of what it means to give our young a good life.
Don’t point the finger at the Sussexes or any one else. Point it towards yourself for this is what WE have done to them.
I agree – it is a two pronged attack on especially the young. Firstly they are not TAUGHT the skill of resilience. Secondly they are bombarded within anxiety- provoking info from an innappropriately young age-when they do not have the internal resources to integrate it -and maybe thirdly they are grossly manipulated by social and advertising media in a manner tha would do Jo Goebbels proud. I am a lifetime sufferer of depression and there is no way i would have survived contemporary adolescence. My 29 year old son has an ongoing “dialogue’ with suicide – and i cannot argue with the negatives of his ‘to be or not to be’ conversation. The ‘sensitives’ of the human genome are the ‘canaries in the coalmine” and the coalmine is in a poor state of repair in terms of being a nurturing vs oppressive environment for especially the young. Even the ‘tough’ are starting to struggle – so you are right in that it may well fall back on the strength of the extended family to provide security and resliience – probably just as it has always until recently been…..
Martin Smith
2 years ago
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Mick Gee
2 years ago
Nice article, Julie. Yes, Julie, there are too many (celebs, actors, comedians, ex-politicians, top sportspersons etc) who try to bolster their fame by writing or talking about their mental health difficulties. But hey they seem to do alright and function OK (no social phobia or depression then) when they need to: on chat shows, etc.. Their gripe is the pressure of fame and success: it’s the association of narcissism, self-pity and victimhood. Too many now consciously seek or contrive ways to get publicity or ways to find content or narratives for books about themselves. Those people with mental health issues (exacerbated or caused by their circumstances or by other people) dealing with drudgery and everyday pressures (like awful jobs and low pay) have to do so anonymously and are unable to articulate their problems.
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Tony Buck
2 years ago
Some of the comments below boil down to saying: “Why can’t these mentally-ill so-and-so’s be wonderful, resilient people like wonderful me ?”
The people who complain about too much attention being paid to mental illness and the mentally ill, are the nasty individuals who cause it – not least by having created a society in their own foul image.
I am glad that mental illness has become less stigmatised in the past few years. Saying you’ve had a bout of depression should not be any different than saying “I had a throat infection” or “I broke my wrist”. The fact that depression is less obvious outwardly than physical maladies should not be a source of fear or judgment.
The wrong turn is when someone truly identifies with the illness and it becomes part of them. I cannot see how this helps to overcome the problem, as once you have accepted that it is part of you – you are in effect saying “I want this to stay”.
By referred to his episodes of mental illness as “the black dog”, Churchill externalised the issue. It wasn’t part of him, rather a familiar figure that would occasionally turn up and cause pain, but then go away again. I’m absolutely sure that this formed part of his extraordinary resilience – he overcame it in the past, he would do again. The black dog would eventually leave.
A world that doesn’t stop at de-stigmatising mental illness but goes on to positively fetishise it and present it as a possibility for earning some serious dosh is encouraging that kind of identification.
In the past there must have been the same issues with mental health but nobody said anything about it because of the associated stigma. This alone must have helped people to fight their problems by just going through the everyday rhythms of life. Was this a good thing?
The answer must be in the numbers. If <1% of people have such problems it might be just manageable. If 50% of people have the problems our whole civilisation will just stop. You will need every other person to be a psychiatrist and even they will need psychiatrists. We will be swamped.
So, here is the real issue. If <1% have problems, perhaps they can be treated but if a further 10% jump on the bandwagon because they can't be bothered to tough it out, then the 1% will not get proper treatment. (The queues in A&E get longer for heart attack patients because the doctors are working on childrens' colds).
Chris, yes, this was what prompted me. This was edited: ‘ If we discover that we’ve all got mental health issues – as seems likely, such is the velocity of this epidemic – who’s going to look after us? Not so much the blind leading the blind as the sad leading the mad.’
Why was it edited?
Do you even need to ask? To spare the feelings of those who are “genuinely mentally ill”. Lol!
Disclosure: i’ve had my own moments (proper ones) so no, i’m not being callous.
No, I don’t think for a moment that you are being callous. But have you noticed that we are sparing a lot of feelings nowadays? Who decides which feelings should be spared and which shouldn’t? Is there an omnipotent Mr UnHerd sitting above us? What colour is he? Or is it Ms UnHerd?
Too long – 500 words over.
Thanks for that.
Great to see you back in print, Julie.
Thank you – I love it here!
Seconded – a huge fan despite you winding me up weekly at the NME in the good old days. Never, ever, change.
Thank you, Dustin – I like your name!
Major trauma was much more frequent for previous generations – child mortality, war, untreatable disease, industrial accidents, ‘pawning-shoes-for-food’ level poverty, physical hardship.
So when I see modern reports of one third of the population having some form of mental problem in a 12 month period, I wonder how now can really be so much worse than the past? Have we over medicalised and industrialised mental health as an issue? Are we too comfortable, and too focused on feelings and the need to feel good, instead of building resilience and emotional strength?
I think we are certainly too focused on feelings; hence the increasing view that no-one should offend us. That when no offence is intended, we can choose to take offence or not, is no longer recognised.
We are too comfortable physically – but because of loneliness and family breakdown, too uncomfortable nervously.
Stable family life creates stable characters, family breakdowns create unstable characters.
“Man does not live by bread alone” – telling people that they must be cheerful because they’re physically well and well-fed, is crass.
And the large-scale disappearance of religious faith hasn’t helped.
Maybe routine life threatening situations are good for mental health. Perhaps they keep things in perspective or, as Johnson said, concentrate the mind wonderfully.
As in other things, society over-corrects and goes far too far. (Think Wokeism as an example). It is a fact that previously people with mental problems were regarded in kind of two sets of people – a) the mad people and then b) the people with no bottle and resilience. Obviously this was far too facile. We know that people can suffer from definable mental illnesses that need to be acknowledged and treated. Also depression and anxiety can have physical manifestations that can be debilitating. But now we have millions of young people who seem to be mentally fragile because they almost want to be? Help me here!
We have millions of young people who cannot tell the difference between things that hurt them and things that hurt their feelings, and things that hurt their egos. As a direct consequence of this, ‘getting over’ bad things is pretty much permanently off the menu, because they have no distinct separation between their feelings and their selves.
And, unfortunately, they can end up in the feedback loop from hell — in an effort to be happier, they try being more caring, and more compassionate, and find more and more and more things to feel anxious and unhappy about. The notion that the ideal amount of caring and compassion might be at some level they have overshot a long time ago does not occur to them.
‘cannot tell the difference between things that hurt their feelings and things that hurt their egos‘ – this is a very insightful comment.
You forget just how many of them come from defective families.
Which includes one-child families.
We have given young people a rat-race hell to grow up in, where only personal success counts – we then complain about their fragility and anxiousness !
Sympathy about the tinnitus. I’ve had mine for 22 years; it sounds like a whistling kettle. There’s no cure, and none of the advertised quack remedies works, but certain things help.
One is to have constant background music or sound. You focus through and past the ringing in your ears, and on to the music, much as when you wear glasses, you don’t notice the glasses. Caffeine makes some people’s tinnitus worse; alcohol makes some people’s tinnitus worse; try cutting this kind of stimulant out for a week to see if it makes a difference for you.
Spicy food, the hotter the better, makes mine quieter. Nobody can explain to me why this works, but the thing that makes chillies hot is an agent called capsaicin. As well as suppressing the cough reflex, capsaicin is also an anti-depressant; it’s why you feel cheerier after a curry. It may be a factor here, or it may not. Other natural anti-depressants (St John’s Wort notably) have no effect on tinnitus at all because they are actually stimulants.
Good luck. You have to train yourself gradually to stop noticing. You can’t make it go away completely, but you can make it matter less.
For me, self-hypnosis works on almost everything. You have to believe in hypnosis first so that you take it seriously.
What a beautiful, and beautifully written, article.
Thank you, Richard!
Mental illness has always been around, but there are three reasons why it’s such a pestilence here in today’s West
-. The disappearance of the extended family; there’s no longer a cousin or whoever to buoy you up when you’re going through a rough patch
-. The semi-disappearance of social and civic organisations that bring people out of themselves and enable them to forget their troubles
-. The fact that our modern world is so depressing and depressed, so lonely and atomised, to start off with: in other words, is a very low base to start off from.
What annoys me most is the people who say, ‘I suffer from mental health’ or, simply, ‘I have mental health’.
My reaction is, ‘We all have mental health. ‘Health’ is a neutral or positive term. If you are suffering, you must have a mental illness. Which one is it?’ They never know.
My other reaction is, ‘You are also illiterate’.
Brilliant article, Julie. You are a breath of fresh air. One of the best writers on mental health and, in particular, depression, is the late Dr Dorothy Rowe. She’s clear eyed, down to earth and the very opposite of (judging from the brief quotes you gave) The Comfort Book – yuk!
Thank you, Richard!
“Mental Health” (current usage) entered the vocab at least couple of years ago.
E.g in 2019: A man at the bus stop was shouting abuse at the driver who had stopped and was slow to put the ramp down, and the woman with him was shouting, in explanation, I guess: “Mental Health! He’s Mental Health!”
Living abroad as I do I notice when words or phrases come into vogue in English. ‘Mental health’ was one of them. I noticed how people gradually realised that this was a phrase that could get them what they wanted in the way of attention and perhaps more tanglible benefits.
But much more worrying is: ‘criminals are being spared jail for the sake of their mental health’. There has been a case of France of a young Muslim who threw an elderly Jewish woman out her window but who was judged incapable of criminal responsibility because of his mental state (he was also under the influence of drugs). This is terrifying.
Nice to read you again, Julie. My mother committed suicide when I was 11 but my father, who must have been devastated, kept the show on the road, brought up 3 children on his own, and taught me a lifelong lesson in getting back on your feet and turning tragedy into positive energy. Do I think about that day often. Yes. But I refuse to let it define me.
I thought something might might be coming when I saw Mental Health acquiring capitals and becoming a buzz-phrase about 2018. Something like the HSE establishment and the psych lobby expanding their remit and demanding more funding and powers to intrude.
I didn’t expect it would get this bad.
I have to ask: Did you really read to the end of that book? It looks unreadable.
NO WAY!
Just like with the Wokeism and MeToo-ism, the grievances were real, but the pendulum swung too far the other way. The veneration of the victim is common to all, making victimhood attractive, and easier than facing one’s own issues. At the end of the day, not easier, of course. Plus, as you say Julie, one can follow the money too. The book you quoted from is so bad it’s funny. A gravy train of anxiety and depression! What madness (and pun was not intended)!
Resilience – Toughness – is largely a matter of genetics. It can’t be taught, still less self-taught.
Nor is it clear-cut; some Tough people are brittle, some Tender people enduring.
Well said Julie! As a non-native of Australia and knowing a bit about non-Anglospheric parts of the world, I’ll just add that the Anglosphere is way in front of everyone else with the phenomenon of fetishising mental illness and a decreasing resilience, especially in young people. Outside the Anglophere, people have a more sensible approach to all this, even in those countries who can afford this kind mollycoddling, let alone those who cannot.
Prior to the 18th of June I had never heard of Charles Taylor. That’s now three times I’ve read an article in which he’s mentioned.
I agree that some have mental health issues and some do not and am in complete agreement with what Julie writes about the Sussexes and the Windsors. However, I do not feel competent to asses who can and should be helping themselves and who genuinely needs help.
Humanity is divided between those whose craziness takes an emotional form (“mental illness”) and those whose craziness takes a behavioural form – smoking, drink, drugs, shopping, dangerous driving, sexual addiction etc etc.
Well said as always, Julie. And as for Mr Haig’s book, I am sure it will soon be for sale on Amazon at 17p a copy like much else of its kind.
Most of the time in our narcissistic modern world, talk about mental health problems seems either a. attention seeking b. an excuse not to take responsibility c. an expression of perpetual infantilism. Harsh perhaps, but I think it’s the truth.
Mental illness assumes different forms in different eras.
E.g. the heavy drinking-to-oblivion in Victorian Britain.
E.g, all the political lunatics in the 1930’s who went round in coloured shirts attacking other gangs of political lunatics.
I DO think that today’s world is much more complex & complicated compared to previous generations. I DO think mental illness is to do with LACK of physical illness or suffering of the past. In the past lack of consumer goods & services & lack of physical pleasures was the way to remain strong in the mind too. A STRONG STRIVING BODY FED A STRONG MIND . There was less time to woe and weep.
So, in some ways I agree with the author that we will need to strengthen our resolve and to force our way out of our descend into mental illness but I disagree that it was harder then. It’s MUCH harder now. The wealth ( dole, the belief that has been put into us that we can do ANYTHING, millions are made out of thin air ), health on tap ( the likes of NHS & the belief that life can go on forever without pain, ease of life (consumerism, instant satisfaction with ever cheaper goods, the social media) . Our past did not have ANY of this. The wealth was mostly physical & tangible and came after MUCH striving. The health was hugely dependent on wealth. Our forefathers just died when illnesses could not be cured easily or your body was not up for fighting the illness . Today we refuse to be ill & to live with physical pain. We have even found ways to cheat death.
I think mental suffering will take the place of physical suffering of the past. Our minds are tortured by the stuff , more stuff & endless searching for pleasure. Physical suffering is in our biology, failing which, the mind will start to become ill. Also there have never been a time like this before. 7b people to become 9b. How to make sense of that ? I can see why our children will have to worry about mental health in the future. Only in the last 100 yrs the world has changed a 10000 fold both in quantum & in quality.
It’s wrong to say that the younger generation today is spoilt. It’s fair to say that WE have spoiled our young without thinking of what it means to give our young a good life.
Don’t point the finger at the Sussexes or any one else. Point it towards yourself for this is what WE have done to them.
I agree – it is a two pronged attack on especially the young. Firstly they are not TAUGHT the skill of resilience. Secondly they are bombarded within anxiety- provoking info from an innappropriately young age-when they do not have the internal resources to integrate it -and maybe thirdly they are grossly manipulated by social and advertising media in a manner tha would do Jo Goebbels proud. I am a lifetime sufferer of depression and there is no way i would have survived contemporary adolescence. My 29 year old son has an ongoing “dialogue’ with suicide – and i cannot argue with the negatives of his ‘to be or not to be’ conversation. The ‘sensitives’ of the human genome are the ‘canaries in the coalmine” and the coalmine is in a poor state of repair in terms of being a nurturing vs oppressive environment for especially the young. Even the ‘tough’ are starting to struggle – so you are right in that it may well fall back on the strength of the extended family to provide security and resliience – probably just as it has always until recently been…..
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Nice article, Julie. Yes, Julie, there are too many (celebs, actors, comedians, ex-politicians, top sportspersons etc) who try to bolster their fame by writing or talking about their mental health difficulties. But hey they seem to do alright and function OK (no social phobia or depression then) when they need to: on chat shows, etc.. Their gripe is the pressure of fame and success: it’s the association of narcissism, self-pity and victimhood. Too many now consciously seek or contrive ways to get publicity or ways to find content or narratives for books about themselves. Those people with mental health issues (exacerbated or caused by their circumstances or by other people) dealing with drudgery and everyday pressures (like awful jobs and low pay) have to do so anonymously and are unable to articulate their problems.
Some of the comments below boil down to saying: “Why can’t these mentally-ill so-and-so’s be wonderful, resilient people like wonderful me ?”
The people who complain about too much attention being paid to mental illness and the mentally ill, are the nasty individuals who cause it – not least by having created a society in their own foul image.