interesting that the woman is left to bring up the kids and hubby goes on to shower gifts on another girl. 50% marriages end up in divorce 70% of divorces are filled by women. 80% of children’s custardy goes straight to the female. the guy then has to continue to pay for ex-wife and child support, dont think hell have a lot left over for showering sparkly baubles on another girl.
He wouldn’t have a lot left over, nor would any sane man wish to make the same mistake, but the data on the gender gap for remarriage shows otherwise; with men more likely to get married after a divorce – see pew research data
Maybe the women are filing for divorce because the man is up to no good. But marriages, that is not really what the above is about.
ralph bell
3 years ago
Given that very few young people have sex anymore and the fact that males are on most metrics struggling massively more in life than females, I feel this is not broad enough essay. I do feel in agreement with many of the points about the male and females intrinsic differences, less often highlighted and the detriment to both genders in decreasing committed relationships. Jordan Peterson is good on this.
Alex Lekas
3 years ago
Either women are sexually-empowered human beings with agency, or they are helpless waifs who are perpetually objectified. Pick one.
Meanwhile, ponder how the scene has shifted from the pearl-clutching outrage over “Baby, it’s cold outside” to the embracing of “WAP.”
Either your comment is world shaking brilliance or bottomless stupidity, pick one.
Andre Lower
3 years ago
Ah, women are dissatisfied again with whatever change that came about, even tough (alas) it is now acknowledged that they have agency. Still their dissatisfaction with the way sex and relationships currently work remains – and still they react by blaming someone else (the “patriarchy” or some other magical construct). I see no change at all… At least the article refreshingly acknowledges the asymmetry between male and female sexuality. But it stops short of connecting the dots – that men suffer as much as women for such asymmetry, feel disheartened by it and wonder if reciprocal fulfillment is at all possible, given such vast disparity. Some honest discussion of how to live well with this asymmetry (rather than exploiting it) would help alleviating the present disconnect (MGTOW, MeeToo, etc.), whereas the tired old crutch of blaming the “patriarchy” perpetuates a resentment that makes both men and women downright miserable.
Fabian Destouches
3 years ago
If men were the winners from sex-positive porniness the trends of male suicide rates, drug over doses and virginity rates would look very different.
We all probably can agree that sex-positive porniness harms male and female alike. We know; we’re informed; we understand. The problem to be tackled is how to enlighten the young.
Roll back progress and interact face to face in local communities?
Al M
3 years ago
“because nightclubs are an economy of sex, money and nubile flesh, in which the currency is women”
Hardly surprising if you go to a nightclub themed around, let’s call them ‘niche’, sexual preferences. My own mis-spent youth was played out in the techno and house clubs of the wonderfully decadent 90s. Going out clubbing and the night, from start to finish, was an end in itself.
Vikram Sharma
3 years ago
Liberals get mugged by reality!
merigates
3 years ago
Raising teen girls in the 21st century-such a challenge. This writer presents a very mature POV that I appreciate in my old age. I relate to a lot of what she described. In the age of tech., I would also recommend reading this: https://www.amazon.com/RAPE…. By Cyrus Parsa. Just the first three chapters will introduce the naive to the very daunting landmines awaiting the innocent (parent and child alike).
interesting that the woman is left to bring up the kids and hubby goes on to shower gifts on another girl. 50% marriages end up in divorce 70% of divorces are filled by women. 80% of children’s custardy goes straight to the female. the guy then has to continue to pay for ex-wife and child support, dont think hell have a lot left over for showering sparkly baubles on another girl.
He wouldn’t have a lot left over, nor would any sane man wish to make the same mistake, but the data on the gender gap for remarriage shows otherwise; with men more likely to get married after a divorce – see pew research data
Exactly, men seem to be desperate to do it all over again and the women, often, go “er, no thank you”.
Maybe the women are filing for divorce because the man is up to no good. But marriages, that is not really what the above is about.
Given that very few young people have sex anymore and the fact that males are on most metrics struggling massively more in life than females, I feel this is not broad enough essay. I do feel in agreement with many of the points about the male and females intrinsic differences, less often highlighted and the detriment to both genders in decreasing committed relationships. Jordan Peterson is good on this.
Either women are sexually-empowered human beings with agency, or they are helpless waifs who are perpetually objectified. Pick one.
Meanwhile, ponder how the scene has shifted from the pearl-clutching outrage over “Baby, it’s cold outside” to the embracing of “WAP.”
Either your comment is world shaking brilliance or bottomless stupidity, pick one.
Ah, women are dissatisfied again with whatever change that came about, even tough (alas) it is now acknowledged that they have agency. Still their dissatisfaction with the way sex and relationships currently work remains – and still they react by blaming someone else (the “patriarchy” or some other magical construct). I see no change at all…
At least the article refreshingly acknowledges the asymmetry between male and female sexuality. But it stops short of connecting the dots – that men suffer as much as women for such asymmetry, feel disheartened by it and wonder if reciprocal fulfillment is at all possible, given such vast disparity. Some honest discussion of how to live well with this asymmetry (rather than exploiting it) would help alleviating the present disconnect (MGTOW, MeeToo, etc.), whereas the tired old crutch of blaming the “patriarchy” perpetuates a resentment that makes both men and women downright miserable.
If men were the winners from sex-positive porniness the trends of male suicide rates, drug over doses and virginity rates would look very different.
We all probably can agree that sex-positive porniness harms male and female alike. We know; we’re informed; we understand. The problem to be tackled is how to enlighten the young.
It’s all too late. The internet is here and they’re all tuned in. Teenagers always know better – I know, I was one.
Roll back progress and interact face to face in local communities?
“because nightclubs are an economy of sex, money and nubile flesh, in which the currency is women”
Hardly surprising if you go to a nightclub themed around, let’s call them ‘niche’, sexual preferences. My own mis-spent youth was played out in the techno and house clubs of the wonderfully decadent 90s. Going out clubbing and the night, from start to finish, was an end in itself.
Liberals get mugged by reality!
Raising teen girls in the 21st century-such a challenge. This writer presents a very mature POV that I appreciate in my old age. I relate to a lot of what she described. In the age of tech., I would also recommend reading this: https://www.amazon.com/RAPE….
By Cyrus Parsa.
Just the first three chapters will introduce the naive to the very daunting landmines awaiting the innocent (parent and child alike).