Thank you for reminded me to delete Zoom from my phone. Conversations with people who live in the same town have made me uneasy lately, especially when my child is exposed to it. I just refuse to get her socialised into the “new normal”.
leon.dague
3 years ago
I’m reading through your 10 or so unherd essays and this is the best one so far!
georgeguyfolger
4 years ago
Interesting analysis but I don’t think you take into account the differences in being ’20’ versus being ’30’ and by that latter point, you’re probably tired and bored of ‘nights out’ that are often limiting vis a vis having say a really good catch up with a friend over dinner or in a park.
I’m not saying I don’t agree with the sentiment, but I think you miss the nuance. I like to go out, but I like to socialise generally 1-1, as I find that tends to lead the a higher level of conversation and connection versus going out in larger groups. For me, a night equals a good curry with a friend or walk in the park, perhaps a date, or something else relatively lowkey.
But I take your point about the internet. Perhaps staying at home on any particular night wouldn’t be so fun if we had no internet or television. To entertain ourselves, we’d need to leave our home more often, but I don’t think that specifically applies to the younger generation.
Furthermore, I think the reason a lot of ‘millennials’ don’t like to go out anymore is the realisation that our drinking culture revolves around alcohol and binge drinking, and I think that culture is slowly dying out. Many are starting to realise this is not the answer and part of this ‘stay at home’ movement is a kind of rejection of these societal norms. Then you also have the different kind of stresses on younger people today; getting on the property ladder, and big fears about our future such as fighting climate apocalypse..So it’s no wonder our bunch are a more ‘sober’ stay-at-home kind.
Maybe they’re going to Alcoholics Anonymous. Which BTW is totally on Zoom!
nicole20071950
4 years ago
Social Anxiety is not shyness. You are being insensitive to people who have genuine panic breakdowns from seeing other people. You may believe it is just shyness however because of the amount of people like you who don’t understand that social anxiety is not shyness and call it that. Maybe do some research before offending a large group of people.
Thank you for reminded me to delete Zoom from my phone. Conversations with people who live in the same town have made me uneasy lately, especially when my child is exposed to it. I just refuse to get her socialised into the “new normal”.
I’m reading through your 10 or so unherd essays and this is the best one so far!
Interesting analysis but I don’t think you take into account the differences in being ’20’ versus being ’30’ and by that latter point, you’re probably tired and bored of ‘nights out’ that are often limiting vis a vis having say a really good catch up with a friend over dinner or in a park.
I’m not saying I don’t agree with the sentiment, but I think you miss the nuance. I like to go out, but I like to socialise generally 1-1, as I find that tends to lead the a higher level of conversation and connection versus going out in larger groups. For me, a night equals a good curry with a friend or walk in the park, perhaps a date, or something else relatively lowkey.
But I take your point about the internet. Perhaps staying at home on any particular night wouldn’t be so fun if we had no internet or television. To entertain ourselves, we’d need to leave our home more often, but I don’t think that specifically applies to the younger generation.
Furthermore, I think the reason a lot of ‘millennials’ don’t like to go out anymore is the realisation that our drinking culture revolves around alcohol and binge drinking, and I think that culture is slowly dying out. Many are starting to realise this is not the answer and part of this ‘stay at home’ movement is a kind of rejection of these societal norms. Then you also have the different kind of stresses on younger people today; getting on the property ladder, and big fears about our future such as fighting climate apocalypse..So it’s no wonder our bunch are a more ‘sober’ stay-at-home kind.
Yep, good point about the decline of the drinking culture among some millennials – just from my experience – definitely among some millennials.
Maybe they’re going to Alcoholics Anonymous. Which BTW is totally on Zoom!
Social Anxiety is not shyness. You are being insensitive to people who have genuine panic breakdowns from seeing other people. You may believe it is just shyness however because of the amount of people like you who don’t understand that social anxiety is not shyness and call it that. Maybe do some research before offending a large group of people.