by Mary Harrington
Tuesday, 14
June 2022
Debate
10:01

Did woke parents ignore red flags about Ezra Miller?

They claim the actor is controlling their daughter in a 'cult' situation
by Mary Harrington
Ezra Miller is now the subject of a domestic-violence protection order

Has Ezra Miller abducted a Native American activist teenager for a weird sex cult? Rumours are swirling about the Justice League actor, who is now the subject of a domestic-violence protection order. The order was taken out by parents Chase Iron Eyes and Sarah Jumping Eagle, who allege that their 18-year-old daughter Tokata Iron Eyes is being controlled by Miller in a ‘cult’ situation.

According to Iron Eyes’ parents, Miller first met their daughter in 2016 at an oil protest in Sioux territory when the actor was 23 and Iron Eyes was just 12. They have accused the actor of “corrupting a minor”, giving her drugs and flying her to London, Vermont, New York, California and Hawaii.

One might wonder what the parents were thinking, waving their underage daughter off on a plane with a highly charismatic adult man. Someone of my grandmother’s generation might even question the suitability of a wealthy adult male celebrity whose public brand centres on cross-dressing and sexual deviance, about whom allegations of sexual abuse have swirled since at least 2017 (when Tokata Iron Eyes was 13), and who has spoken in interviews about his history of polyamory, abuse, mental illness and prepubescent sexual activity.

The parents allege that their daughter has been groomed. But it might be more accurate to say that so have they. In previous ages, if a girl’s new BFF was an adult male, that might be taken as a reasonable proxy for exercising caution in allowing the friendship, let alone Miller’s heavily publicised forms of self-styled ‘queerness’ (which is to say, determination to undermine all social norms).

But we can reasonably infer that the parents, who are both dedicated Native American social-justice activists, are likely to be on the woke side; and from that perspective any such prudential hesitation would be viewed as the rankest bigotry. Indeed, Miller appears to use this as a bludgeon whenever he encounters opposition. Iron Eyes’ mother has stated that Miller blamed any disagreement with his actions on bigotry: “if anybody questions Ezra’s actions, Ezra says they’re being racist or transphobic, which is not the case in our case.”

Given this, what else can woke parents do other than ignore the Jubilee bunting’s worth of red flags about Ezra Miller back? This, remember, all began when she was prepubescent.

From the same woke perspective, it is as much a parental duty to encourage youthful independence, especially in young women, as it is to stifle any hint of protective concern about your daughter’s choice of friends. The teenage Iron Eyes has taken this on board: she recently posted a video on her Instagram, asserting the liberal independence her parents have doubtless instilled in her since childhood: “This is my life, these are my decisions.”

So Tokata Iron Eyes’ parents have discovered, far too late, that if you withhold judgement concerning the character of individuals while encouraging your child to self-emancipate at an extremely young age, the outcome may not be positive. That is, the child may claim a right to prioritise dodgy friendships over your wisdom and protection. If I could bring myself to be at all judgemental, I might suggest there’s a lesson in there somewhere.

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Richard Abbot
Richard Abbot
13 days ago

To the woke, discernment is discrimination and boundaries are oppression.

Russ W
Russ W
9 days ago
Reply to  Richard Abbot

Richard, wow. What a power packed 13 word sentence. Respect.

R Wright
R Wright
12 days ago

Modernity encapsulated in a single situation. “If you want a vision of the future, imagine a queer polyamorous white liberal drug addict raping a native social justice child activist – forever.”

Last edited 12 days ago by R Wright
Aldo Maccione
Aldo Maccione
12 days ago
Reply to  R Wright

that’s the bright “post morality, post gender, post family, post religions, post post post post anything” future.

Susan James
Susan James
12 days ago
Reply to  R Wright

Since 1492 MMIW.

Alan Osband
Alan Osband
12 days ago
Reply to  R Wright

His Wikipedia entry does have some funny quotes ‘I am very much in love with no one in particular’

Last edited 12 days ago by Alan Osband
William Simonds
William Simonds
13 days ago

There is, I think, a much simpler explanation than “woke” parents suddenly realizing the corruption of their daughter by a questionable adult and the danger of their woke-ness. It might be: parents realizing the chances for a handsome payoff from a well healed celebrity will be gone once their daughter hits 21. If, after almost 6 years of grooming by said celebrity, these parents are only just now deciding to take legal action, I might think this was taking advantage of a fast disappearing opportunity for a shake-down.

Richard Craven
Richard Craven
12 days ago

To be honest, I think the “woke parents coming to their senses” explanation is simpler.

Susan James
Susan James
12 days ago

I think a much simpler explanation is. A Dr and a Lawyer were blindsided by a man they welcomed into their lives. His status was of no significant meaning in this. They aren’t naive people by any means. They are not as you say after moneyou! That is a typical and disgusting insinuation. Lakota Peoples Law project. Google it, Chase Iron eyes is not as you say after the money. WOW.

Aidan Trimble
Aidan Trimble
9 days ago
Reply to  Susan James

So he’s just a terrible, terrible parent ? That’s ok then.

Arkadian X
Arkadian X
13 days ago

I don’t know any of the people mentioned and I am not sure I even understand what is (allegedly) going on here.

Annie Doherty
Annie Doherty
13 days ago
Reply to  Arkadian X

I’ve never heard of any of these people either, but I’m quite sure what’s ‘going on here’!

harry storm
harry storm
13 days ago
Reply to  Arkadian X

Ezra Miller played The Flash in the Justice League movie (and was quite good, IMO). I’m sorry to learn he’s such a freak.

Richard Craven
Richard Craven
12 days ago
Reply to  harry storm

Presumably he took the part because he thought he was playing a flasher.

Judy Englander
Judy Englander
12 days ago
Reply to  Arkadian X

I’d like to see a more comprehensive article in the main section of Unherd.

Amanda O'Callaghan
Amanda O'Callaghan
12 days ago

Why did the parents wait for them to be 18 to involve legal authorities??? If this had happened to my daughter at 12 yrs old I would have put a stop to it then… Not wait 6 years

Rob Britton
Rob Britton
8 days ago

It is probably more likely that the parents were star struck. After all it was parents who allowed their young boys to spend the night with Michael Jackson at Neverland.

Susan James
Susan James
12 days ago

No they are NOT.
DR Sara Jumping Eagle, paediatricIan, child protection etc, her husband, Lawyer Chase Iron eyes, of Lakota Peoples Law project, advocates lawyers for return of the illegally removed, children of Native American, Lakota, Dakota, Nakota children, who are fostered into non native adoptions removed across states far from home family tribes ,illegally uplifted by cHilda protection falsely accused parents and caregivers, etc!illegal under the ICWA He fights for that !These are NOT woke people to blame. They are professionals with a child who was groomed over 9 years right in front of them. Like any parent they were blindsided. Takota and many of her peers all of her peers among her people live daily with the danger of losing freinds Sisters Brothers Aunts Mothers, to abduction trafficking murder and rape. MMIW and boys.it happens to them on a DAILY basis. These kids are taught drilled on the danger of MEN like EZRA prowling , Only they come in trucks and man camps and bars and shopping centres and troll along reservation roads and literally grab them in plain sight! Educate yourselves America and Canada, FIGHT to end this MMIW epidemic. No they weren’t being woke !they were being good people, kind people who like the rest of us would and do, trusted a young guy and an innocent friendship with their daughter. I think you owe them and apology for this. It is totally incorrect and cruel. These are very distraught terrified anxious parents. To lay blame, to insinuate wokeness on their part as the reason their daughter was groomed, coerced, manipulated and taken from them and their guidance, as she journeys into adulthood is disgusting cruel and unbelievable. You are blatantly Victim blaming. Ezra Miller IS A CHILD PREDATOR. STOP HIM. He is 100%to blame.

Lindsay S
Lindsay S
9 days ago
Reply to  Susan James

A lot of people struggle to accept that adults are groomed alongside their children. Jimmy Savile effectively groomed an entire nation. It’s an uncomfortable reality, that we could all be that person being manipulated by a predator to gain access to our children.

Crow T. Robot
Crow T. Robot
9 days ago
Reply to  Lindsay S

No he did not. He deceived only a few near to him, the rest of the nation was not privy to his personal life. Others recognized and spoke up, but British libel laws prevented public awareness. However, people in the British entertainment industry were aware and tolerated his behavior. Sound familiar?

Crow T. Robot
Crow T. Robot
9 days ago
Reply to  Susan James

“… kind people who like the rest of us would and do, trusted a young guy and an innocent friendship with their daughter.”
Oh, I”m sure they were blindsided. The glaring question is: What blinded them to seeing their young daughter travel with Ezra (see pictures, read statements) and thinking that was innocent? Further, why would you characterize this relationship as “innocent”?
Regarding “victim blaming”, parents are responsible for their children. The victim is the child. The parents are responsible for her care. Instead, they entrusted her to Ezra Miller. They are responsible, they are culpable.