June 27, 2023 - 10:00am
For the last few years, TikTok users have been talking about Main Character Syndrome: a semi-narcissistic tendency in which a person views themselves as the protagonist in their life story, putting themselves centre-stage and sidelining others to supporting roles. Main Character Syndrome is driven by neediness, self-obsession, insecurity, immaturity, vanity, and entitlement — and therefore seems to be an apt label for the vulture-like TikTok “detectives” still ghoulishly circling over the death of Nicola Bulley.
These unqualified, unconnected, unethical armchair analysts have become such a problem that police have threatened jail for anyone who disturbs the current inquest into Bulley’s death. Indeed, one investigation had already been hampered before her body was found — the police had to issue dispersal orders at the site of her disappearance, and one YouTuber was fined and arrested on a public order offence. Now the TikTok sleuths have been circulating conspiracy theories online: that her disappearance was staged by her friends, her husband, the police, the Government. For all the pretence of “justice”, this is about clicks and content rather than civic duty: an exploitative attempt to go viral, to play the Main Character in your own live murder mystery.
The hysteria around Nicola Bulley may seem extreme, but it’s not exceptional. Videos trying to pinpoint the killer responsible for the death of four students in Idaho racked up over 400 million views on TikTok. Within days, a Facebook group discussing the murders had 64,000 members and 10,000 posts. A history professor was later forced to file a defamation lawsuit against a TikToker who said her tarot cards revealed that the professor was having a romantic relationship with one of the students and was responsible for their deaths.
People posting from their front-facing cameras can tell their audience, and themselves, that what they are doing is helpful, that they are simply raising awareness. Yet 170,000 people go missing in the UK every year, and these self-titled social media “experts” only obsess over one or two cases that always fit a similar profile: young, white, attractive, “innocent”, middle-class victims like Gabby Petito and Sarah Everard. Where are the public vigils for Shadika Patel, who was murdered while bringing food over to her sons’ house? Sabina Nessa’s murder received a fraction of the online attention Everard’s did, and there wasn’t the same public outcry when two police officers took a selfie with two murdered black sisters.
Our obsession with true crime is dangerous. It desensitises us to violence towards women; it causes grieving families more suffering; it trivialises tragedy and turns harrowing situations into likes; and it feeds an insatiable amoral algorithm that wants to serve us the most shocking, most sensational, most shareable soundbites.
Ultimately, though, poring over true crime stories simply perpetuates paranoia and hyper-vigilance in an already overly-anxious world. Women are the biggest fans of true crime, but what is this doing to our sense of safety? By obsessing over these incredibly rare cases, women internalise the idea that they are in danger, and that men are inherently dangerous. Yet the number of women being murdered by men in the UK is actually falling year on year. While the number is still far too high, women are more likely to die from heart disease or a horrendous car crash than be the victim of homicide (men actually account for seven out of 10 murder victims).
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SubscribeThe reason the Bulley case attracted so much attention is because the circumstances are strange and mysterious. The reason the Sarah Everard case aroused such anger was because it was a brutal murder carried out by a serving police officer. But well done you for managing to cast aspersions and shoe-horn race into it.
Well said Chris. This isn’t the Guardian.
But she is an English teacher so of course she has to teach to the syllabus that everything that happens has a racist and neo-colonial slant to it.
Depressing, isn’t it?
Depressing, isn’t it?
But she is an English teacher so of course she has to teach to the syllabus that everything that happens has a racist and neo-colonial slant to it.
Thanks for dealing with the woke racism.
Well said Chris. This isn’t the Guardian.
Thanks for dealing with the woke racism.
The reason the Bulley case attracted so much attention is because the circumstances are strange and mysterious. The reason the Sarah Everard case aroused such anger was because it was a brutal murder carried out by a serving police officer. But well done you for managing to cast aspersions and shoe-horn race into it.
Always shoving the anti-white narrative down our throats
Always shoving the anti-white narrative down our throats
Tulip Mania, South Sea Bubble, True Crime obsessives?
Perhaps there’s a common cause – but the mania spreads faster and harder with the aid of social media.
Tulip Mania, South Sea Bubble, True Crime obsessives?
Perhaps there’s a common cause – but the mania spreads faster and harder with the aid of social media.
Maybe the public have a biological connection when its one of their own tribe that is murdered.Of course that is not possible because race is just a social construct.White people are made to believe that they are evil if they are only interested in their own tribe, whereas every other tribe gets a free pass on their beliefs.
Maybe the public have a biological connection when its one of their own tribe that is murdered.Of course that is not possible because race is just a social construct.White people are made to believe that they are evil if they are only interested in their own tribe, whereas every other tribe gets a free pass on their beliefs.
Having one’s brutal murder served up as public entertainment could hardly be called a “privilege”. Is this the new “intersectional feminism”: complaining that the public doesn’t find the murders of black women as entertaining as the murders of white women? Really?
Having one’s brutal murder served up as public entertainment could hardly be called a “privilege”. Is this the new “intersectional feminism”: complaining that the public doesn’t find the murders of black women as entertaining as the murders of white women? Really?
““innocent”, middle-class victims like Gabby Petito and Sarah Everard. Where are the public vigils for Shadika Patel, who was murdered while bringing food over to her sons’ house? Sabina Nessa’s murder received a fraction of the online attention Everard’s did”
I’ve never heard of Gabby Petito, but remember reading quite alot about Sabina Nessa.
“and there wasn’t the same public outcry when two police officers took a selfie with two murdered black sisters.”
Simply not true.
““innocent”, middle-class victims like Gabby Petito and Sarah Everard. Where are the public vigils for Shadika Patel, who was murdered while bringing food over to her sons’ house? Sabina Nessa’s murder received a fraction of the online attention Everard’s did”
I’ve never heard of Gabby Petito, but remember reading quite alot about Sabina Nessa.
“and there wasn’t the same public outcry when two police officers took a selfie with two murdered black sisters.”
Simply not true.
“young, white, attractive, “innocent”, middle-class victims”
and female. “Missing White Woman Syndrome” I’ve heard it called. Around the time Nicola Bulley vanished, so did Mark Bishop, a 64-year-old man from Nottinghamshire, in very similar circumstances, and was later found drowned. Yet, barely a thing in the press.
Although thank you for pointing out that 70% of murder victims are male – and where is the outcry for them? Especially young men and often ethnic-minority. There is mourning and outrage locally but it doesn’t reach the level of vigils and Questions Asked. The outrage over Stephen Lawrence was about police racism. There is BLM but that seems to be again about not trusting the police rather than any value of the lives that have been lost.
“young, white, attractive, “innocent”, middle-class victims”
and female. “Missing White Woman Syndrome” I’ve heard it called. Around the time Nicola Bulley vanished, so did Mark Bishop, a 64-year-old man from Nottinghamshire, in very similar circumstances, and was later found drowned. Yet, barely a thing in the press.
Although thank you for pointing out that 70% of murder victims are male – and where is the outcry for them? Especially young men and often ethnic-minority. There is mourning and outrage locally but it doesn’t reach the level of vigils and Questions Asked. The outrage over Stephen Lawrence was about police racism. There is BLM but that seems to be again about not trusting the police rather than any value of the lives that have been lost.
True crime attracts attention because it is sharply different from what fake crime statistics are trying to moonlight us into, at least in Australia. Melbourne Australia has been voted the world’s 3rd most liveable city, while people are forced to organise security patrols in suburbs of million-dollar homes.
True crime attracts attention because it is sharply different from what fake crime statistics are trying to moonlight us into, at least in Australia. Melbourne Australia has been voted the world’s 3rd most liveable city, while people are forced to organise security patrols in suburbs of million-dollar homes.