Lee, who was born in 1994 in Chongjin, North Korea’s third largest city, considered herself an orphan after her father died when she was eight and her mother fled to China when she was ten.
A couple of years later, her mum made contact to say she had paid a “broker” to smuggle Lee and her younger brother out. But, says Lee, in her first press interview: “He left my brother there because he wanted more money.” She has not been able to make contact with him since.
Lee spent 15 days in China, before moving to Myanmar and, a month later, South Korea. She had grown up being told that North Korea was the best in the world and that leader Kim Jong-il was akin to a god. At school, when she was not forever studying the central subject – the intricate history of founding father Kim Il-sung and his family – she was taught that South Koreans were starving because of the evil Americans. “And that’s what I imagined – a lot of beggars,” she says in her New Malden kitchen, laughing at the thought.
The scales fell from her eyes within moments of making it into Chinese territory. “When I was crossing, North Korea was completely in blackout, no lights at all. And then just after that river, everywhere was lit up, it was so colourful. I was like, ‘Wow! This is a new world.’ That’s when I realised, maybe not everybody in the world was living like me.” After five months in Seoul, Lee and her mother made their way to England.
Many North Koreans choose the UK over South Korea (where they are, in most cases, automatically eligible for citizenship and generous state support) because they do not want to be the victims of discrimination by their southern neighbours.
As one defector in New Malden told Jiyoung Song, senior lecturer in Korean studies at the University of Melbourne: “I couldn’t bear the second-class citizen treatment by South Koreans, but here in the UK, it’s OK because there are many second-class, third-class citizens like Indian, Pakistani Muslims or other black people. I’m just one of them.”
But that doesn’t always make life any easier. Here, they are destined to work in menial jobs for South Korean bosses. “I don’t even think they are angry,” says Lee. “They just accept it as it is because they have no choice.”
Korean expats from North and South are also divided by their accents and vocabulary. North Koreans, who grew up in a country impervious to foreign influences, cannot understand certain words that make up the “Konglish” spoken by those from the South.
Even their meals are different. “Generally, South Korean food is so sweet and has so much stuff in it, sometimes it’s hard to taste the original ingredients,” says Lee. North Koreans — not catered for by the manifold South Korean shops and restaurants of New Malden – are left to make their cuisine at home (a dish enjoyed by both nations, such as sundae, pig’s intestines stuffed with pig’s blood and rice, still tastes different in each).
Of course, this is paradise compared with home, where half of the population of 25 million is undernourished, according to a UN report. Just last week, dictator Kim Jong-un warned that the nation needed to embark on another “arduous march” against a faltering economy — appearing to draw parallels with the famine in the 1990s that killed up to three million of his countrymen.
It was the grim sight of starvation that led Joong-wha Choi — three of whose brothers had died of hunger — to flee across the Tumen River into China with his wife and baby son in 2004, before he settled in New Malden, where he works in the warehouse of Europe’s leading importer of South Korean food.
“I gave ten years of service to the country in the military and ended up seeing these dead bodies piled up in the street,” says Choi, now 56, via an interpreter. “I would rather be blind than see the dead bodies.” He chose Britain in part because of his memories of history lessons, in which the country — and its Industrial Revolution — were spoken of in glowing terms.
Lee, now a 26-year-old mother of two and working as a director for the charity Connect: North Korea, recalls: “Generally finding food was a problem for every family. Just getting rice wasn’t easy.”
Her family had a fridge and a TV, but most of the time there was no electricity — spelling disaster for her father’s income as an electrician. “The fridge, we would store shoes in it,” she says. “All sorts of different stuff, but not food.”
One rare exception is the Day of the Sun, which takes place today, the celebration of the birth of Kim Il-sung, founder and Eternal President of the republic. As well as the missile-laden parades — at which soldiers chant “We will die for you!” at their leader — it is the only day, apart from Kim Jong-il’s birthday, when the state hands out meat to families and sweets to children. “It’s a sad fact,” says Choi. “Because normal days for us are very hungry and we wouldn’t get enough food to eat.”
And yet many North Koreans in London are too intimidated to speak publicly, fearing the long arm of the DPRK authorities. Lee says she would not be prepared to have her photo taken for this interview, and that despite her fluent English and joy at living in a democracy: “I still find it difficult to say what I want to say, to express myself freely.”
Park, who was most shocked by the sight of newspapers when she arrived in Britain, says she is still surveilled: “We make a lot of events in the UK. Sometimes the embassy come and say you cannot do that, and send angry emails to us.”
Meanwhile Choi, a former chairman of the North Korean Residents’s Society, believes some of his fellow refugees have been recruited as informers under threat of their families being imprisoned back home.
He is unperturbed. He twice thanks me for interviewing him, and laments how there “once was a period where people simply didn’t have any interest in North Koreans”.
“The problem that spies are doing is they divide the community,” he says. “I am the only one I know who didn’t actually have any threats from them, so I am very lucky.”
However serious the threat, the truth is that many of the goings-on at the North Korean embassy — located on a street in Ealing, west London, once home to actor Sid James — often sound more like those of a Carry On film. In 2014, diplomats were reported to be so short of funds that staff were seen buying office equipment at car boot sales, and were unable to pay for their shopping at a New Malden supermarket.
But they should not be underestimated. In 2012, a North Korean was jailed in South Korea for trying to assassinate a fellow escapee with a poison-tipped needle. “Eliminating a defector is apparently the best way of warning its people against fleeing from the country,” said a South Korean official. After he was arrested, the agent said the regime had threatened to kill his family if he did not carry out the assassination.
North Korean diplomats are even forced to spy on each other. Thae Yong-ho, who was deputy ambassador to Britain, defected to the South in 2016. He spoke in February of the constant fear of being spirited to a prison camp: “From time to time some of your colleagues just disappear without explanation.”
And yet many North Koreans in London alter their accents and dress not to avoid undercover agents, but to appear to hail from their richer and more advanced neighbour.
“Even though they try, they cannot be because the way they speak and the way they behave – definitely North Koreans,” insists Lee.
“I actually go out to people and say that I am North Korean, proudly,” she adds, and she tells her children of the culture and history of her birthplace. “Not Kim’s family,” she clarifies, “but the country itself”.
“The landscape is beautiful, though all the trees are cut off because we don’t have electricity and to cook, you need a fire. Every season is distinctive. Spring is very warm and summer is very hot. We would go to the seaside and swim. And autumn is the most beautiful, yeah – all the trees, they have different colours.”
“I think we should be proud,” Lee says with a hopeful smile. “North Korea is going to open soon and it has a lot of potential. It could develop like South Korea. We could go back and do a lot of good things there.”
Choi, too, sees a time when he will be able to return. “But I also have this fear inside me. Getting out of that country is a life and death matter and I worry, would that be the same going back? There might be hatred for people who fled the country. I will definitely go back, even though it’s going to be hard.”
But the prospect of a homecoming still seems as remote as ever. If anything, North Korea has been pulling up the drawbridge, with the number of defections dwindling and the borders closed during the pandemic, as international sanctions continue to bite. Talk to defectors, however, and you will find a relentless optimism that one day soon the regime will fall.
In the meantime, at least they have found a little piece of Pyongyang in this pocket of London suburbia.
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SubscribeI object to this statement:
“As one defector in New Malden told Jiyoung Song, senior lecturer in Korean studies at the University of Melbourne: “I couldn’t bear the second-class citizen treatment by South Koreans, but here in the UK, it’s OK because there are many second-class, third-class citizens like Indian, Pakistani Muslims or other black people. I’m just one of them.”
Nobody is a second- or third-class citizen in the UK if they obey the law and do some work. Koreans in general tend to be very hard working, law abiding people and it’s a shame they don’t play a greater role in public life.
I too am not happy with the statement but it appears to be accurate reportage of a defector’s statement. Why then do you object to it being included in this article as it broadens the background to the article itself?
I object to the statement, not its inclusion in the article.
Would ‘disagree’ be a better word then, rather than object?
Nobody is a second- or third-class citizen in the UK if they obey the law and do some work.
I’ve known black British of Jamaican family origins who were both hard working and law abiding who nonetheless felt they were second-class citizens.
I am white and male so I am by definition a second class citizen
No, by definition you are a bit of a Pr!ck because you appear to have an empathy bypass.
I will give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you know what empathy means.
If you can explain why I am a bit of a Pr!ck because I appear to have an empathy bypass, I will explain to you why you are a dishonest grifter at worst and a fool at best.
What I said may been expressed flippantly but it contains more than a grain of truth which you presumably recognise even if you cannot admit it, hence the venom of you response.
Oh dear oh dear: you really don’t live in the real UK , do you:”
“Nobody is a second- or third-class citizen in the UK if they obey the law and do some work”. Try growing up being the black child of a single mum in Glasgow or Liverpool, living in slum housing conditions, and having to care for your Mum because she is an alcoholic or has a mental health issue… and then tell me that.
“As one defector in New Malden told Jiyoung Song, senior lecturer in Korean studies at the University of Melbourne”
Melbourne Uni is the epicentre of woke socialism in Australia. I wouldn’t trust a lecturer from there to tell the truth without putting some woke spin on it. They wouldn’t say anything else … or they would get cancelled.
There was no context. How long had the person been here? Did he or she speak English? Etc..
As usual when I read this sort of article, I think to myself that every wannabe socialist should read it.
Ego quoque.
Important article in and of itself. And, for me, one more reason to abhor (to put it mildly) Biden’s fraudulent Presidency. Trump was making serious inroads w/NOKO (and more importantly, China, NOKO’s reason for being). All that is going to Hell in a hand basket w/Biden.
“Park, who had to escape twice. She first fled aged 29, by crossing the border into China, while under gunfire from North Korean guards. She was sold for marriage to a Chinese farmer but, after being reported to the police, was separated from her six-year-old son and deported back home.
There, Park worked barefoot in a labour camp, before being released to die after seriously injuring her leg. Within six months, however, she had escaped the country again and was reunited with her child. ”
Yes, yes, yes but what is the appropriate pronoun to use.
“..the largest population of North Korean refugees outside Asia”. Who would have thought that England is the nearest safe country to North Korea? One learns something new every day.
We should build our own statue of liberty in the channel
Please note: one is not allowed to leave the UK without permission right now.
Such a powerful article about the amazing experience and escape of Ji from North Career.
It certainly reminds Brits of what we can still be proud of.
Thanks for putting the day into perspective. An interesting glance into the lives of a silent minority here.
I’d love to know what the North Koreans in UK think of the wonderful Korean drama Crash Landing on You of which half the series takes place in North Korea (though obviously it wasn’t filmed there)
Well, everyday’s a school day, as they say. Who knew New Malden had been taken over by Korean restaurants and shops? I’ve just dropped the yellow man onto Google maps in the high street – look left and right and 2-3 Korean takeaways and restaurants appear! Stoll further down and it seems every other business is Korean.
It’s good to know these people – from North and South – have decided to make a home here. On my travels I’ve only met a few Koreans – but they have all been genuinely nice people. Friendly without being overbearing.
I guess when they moved here we were relatively richer. Today I don’t think that’s the case.
Good article, I learned a lot.
It’s sad that despite our being such a wealthy country, we cannot feed our own people properly, or give them all jobs, safe housing, and a decent income, and that we all in the UK also live under the strange cult of a semi-divine hereditary Monarchy that lives in excessive isolation and extreme wealth in their fabulous palaces, despite doing nothing to deserve it, whilst sheltering under the umbrella of a massive nuclear and conventional ‘defence’ force that we can and will never actually use in real action.
Not doing too well on the old upticks today are we Robert?
Well Robert,
I advise a six month holiday in North Korea for you. Starting today. Please report when you are back
That Korean lady is right – almost everyone in Britain is a second-class citizen.
But I guess that the overwhelming majority of Brits would not agree with you! What evidence do you have to support your assertion?
Is this a reference to lockdown?
Absurd. I have known thousands of people in my life, and not a single one of them thought themselves second class.
A further point; there are a limited number of countries in the world to which, it seems. vast numbers of people wish to immigrate, and the UK is one of them.