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					<title>&#8216;Mrs America&#8217;, and where feminism failed</title>
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						<![CDATA[Sarah Ditum]]>
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							<![CDATA[Cate Blanchett as Phyllis Schlafly in Mrs America]]>
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								<![CDATA[<p>Why hasn’t feminism done better? It’s a movement that represents approximately half the world, and yet – as is driven home by the miniseries <em>Mrs America</em>, currently on iPlayer — its cultural force and legislative success arguably peaked well before the end of the twentieth century. <em>Mrs America </em>dramatises the battle by US feminists to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment, and at the end of the first episode everything is going great. It’s 1972, the Senate has just voted in favour of the ERA by a landslide, and the women’s movement gathers in an office to toast their incipient success. They have the numbers.</p>
<p>We know they will fail. We know, furthermore, that half a century later, the country they believe they are remaking will still have no paid maternity leave. Women’s earnings will still lag behind men’s. Men will still be raping and killing women. Pornography will be more pervasive than ever, and more misogynistic too. The abortion rights established by Roe vs. Wade will have been rolled back, state by state. The USA will still not have had a female vice-president, never mind president. It will, however, have put its first self-confessed groper to the White House.</p>
<p>But back in 1972, Republican activist Jill Ruckelshaus (Elizabeth Banks) clinks a mug of bourbon with Shirley Chisholm (Uzo Aduba), the Democrat congresswoman who was both the first black and the first female candidate to seek the presidential nomination. “Mother of the movement” Betty Friedan (Tracey Ullman) smiles at rising feminist celebrity Gloria Steinem (Rose Byrne). The ERA seems assured. Legalised abortion is within reach. Sisterhood is powerful. One joyful moment of bipartisan, intersectional unity, before the long slide begins.</p>
<p>There are other frustrations besides that of the ERA. We see Chisholm’s run end in expected defeat, compounded by betrayals and recrimination. The black caucus refuses to back a woman, while the women’s movement peels away to press its demands on the successful (and uninterested) McGovern campaign. Across the aisle, Ruckelshaus watches her party leave her behind and give itself over to the culture wars. In fact, of all the details in <em>Mrs America</em> that feel quaintly historical, from the incessant smoking to the idea of magazines having popular currency, nothing seems so strange as the fact that there was ever such a thing as a pro-choice, feminist, mainstream Republican.</p>
<div class="ref-ar"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/why-doesnt-porn-ever-get-cancelled/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/why-doesnt-porn-ever-get-cancelled/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><img decoding="async" src="https://unherd.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/GettyImages-1184248334.jpg?w=300" /></a><div class="content"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/why-doesnt-porn-ever-get-cancelled/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span class="meta">More from this author</span></a><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/why-doesnt-porn-ever-get-cancelled/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><h5>Why doesn&#039;t porn ever get cancelled?</h5></a><p class="author"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/why-doesnt-porn-ever-get-cancelled/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span>By</span> Sarah Ditum</a></p></div></a></div>
<p>What’s coming to eat Ruckelhaus’s lunch? Anti-feminist activist Phyllis Schlafly, portrayed with powerhouse iciness by Cate Blanchett. It’s fair to say that without Schlafly’s efforts, the ERA would be law by now. It’s arguable that without her, American politics would never have taken the savagely partisan turn it did over gender and sexuality. And it’s fascinating to see that, as portrayed in <em>Mrs America</em>, the great homemaker’s first interest was never women.</p>
<p>Schlafly’s subject is defence, on which she’s ultra-hawkish. Her problem is getting men to listen to her when their default assumption is that any woman in the room must be there to fetch coffee and make notes. When Schlafly reinvents herself as the leader of the STOP ERA lobby group, though, she immediately becomes someone men pay attention to and other women obey. Her campaign might rest heavily on scaremongering about the ERA forcing women into the draft against their natures, but Schlafly is, you can sense, a born general.</p>
<p>Yet the women’s movement underestimates her. Informed that there’s a cohort of housewives out to frustrate reform, the feminists’ first impulse is dismissive. “Revolutions are messy,” says the Steinem character. “People get left behind.” It’s a moment that lays out one of feminism’s most intractable contradictions — a movement for all women that, ultimately, has to tell some women they’re doing it wrong. And who has ever been converted to a political cause by the news that their life is a mistake?</p>
<div class="ref-ar"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/how-the-left-betrayed-feminism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/how-the-left-betrayed-feminism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><img decoding="async" src="https://unherd.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/GettyImages-908282144-e1603909323481.jpg?w=300" /></a><div class="content"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/how-the-left-betrayed-feminism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span class="meta">More from this author</span></a><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/how-the-left-betrayed-feminism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><h5>How the Left betrayed feminism</h5></a><p class="author"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/06/how-the-left-betrayed-feminism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span>By</span> Sarah Ditum</a></p></div></a></div>
<p>Committing yourself to what Schlafly called the “privileges” of life as a housewife means committing yourself to dependency on a man. He might be a good man, or he might be the sort of man to stymie your ambitions and cut you off from friends and rape you when he feels like it: the trouble is, without a safety net, you won’t know which until it’s too late to get out. The women of the Schlafly persuasion get the message that feminism isn’t for <em>women like them</em>, when women like them have as much need of it as anybody.</p>
<p>The same is true now as it was then, although today feminism finds itself at odds with the women of porn culture as much as it does with the women of the moral majority. What answer is feminism able to give to the woman who avers that she loves her “kink” of being choked and beaten and it’s her right to pursue it, just as much as Schlafly’s army swore down that they loved being the breadmakers to their breadwinners and it was their right to stay that way? Truly, there isn’t much you can say, beyond: we’ll try to be here when you need us.</p>
<div class="ref-ar"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/02/theres-nothing-woke-about-the-sex-trade/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/02/theres-nothing-woke-about-the-sex-trade/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><img decoding="async" src="https://unherd.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/GettyImages-1067764510.jpg?w=300" /></a><div class="content"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/02/theres-nothing-woke-about-the-sex-trade/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span class="meta">Suggested reading</span></a><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/02/theres-nothing-woke-about-the-sex-trade/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><h5>There&#039;s nothing woke about the sex trade</h5></a><p class="author"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/02/theres-nothing-woke-about-the-sex-trade/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span>By</span> Julie Bindel</a></p></div></a></div>
<p>And this is why feminism hasn’t done better. When a group is as large as 50% of the population, there will always be more conflicting interests than one movement can reconcile, and greater individual rewards for breaking rank. In <em>Mrs America</em>, the black feminists hear that their racial struggles can come later; Black Panther women talk about ditching the lesbians, because the Black Panther men won’t have it; and Friedan’s commitment to the cause never can quite reconcile her to Steinem’s precedence.</p>
<p>Easier for Schlafly: her movement exists in the service of a particular kind of woman only. With its demographic clearly defined, and its leadership unambiguous, STOP ERA could push on without the strain of sustaining a fractious coalition. Feminism in the twenty-first century has been recast as a kind of all-purpose social justice movement, the correct demand that it be for <em>all </em>women twisted into a requirement that it barely be about women at all. It has become too big to succeed, and if there’s any lesson in the failure of the ERA, it’s that politics is more than a numbers game.</p>
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								<![CDATA[Feminism didn't kill the birth rate — liberal individualism did]]>
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								<![CDATA[<p>Did feminism kill the birth rate? The circumstantial evidence is damning. The ‘Women’s Liberation’ movement kicked off in earnest in the Sixties and Seventies, demanding (among other things) free contraception and abortion on demand. And over the same decades, <a href="https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/livebirths/bulletins/birthsummarytablesenglandandwales/2018">the fertility rate crashed.</a></p>
<p>This should not be a surprise. Human babies take a long time to reach independence, which confers significant obligations on their parents. Before the existence of the welfare state, or reliable contraception, societies attempted to hold both men and women to these obligations by stigmatising sex outside marriage, and as far as possible forcing marriage on any couple whose illicit fun resulted in an unplanned pregnancy.</p>
<p>The alternatives to a ‘shotgun wedding’ were terrifying: in the 19<sup>th</sup> century, unmarried pregnancy could leave a woman indigent, imprisoned in near-slavery in places like the <a href="https://www.irishtimes.com/news/social-affairs/religion-and-beliefs/magdalene-laundries-i-often-wondered-why-were-they-so-cruel-1.3521600">Magdalene laundries,</a> as or at grave physical risk in the hands of a <a href="https://www.elle.com/life-love/a14570/abortion-in-the-19th-century/">backstreet abortionist</a>. Without easy access to divorce, too, a shotgun wedding could leave a mother dependent for life on an abusive spouse.</p>
<p>It is no wonder, then, that the 20th century women’s liberation movement sought economic independence and control over fertility for women. Feminists founded organisations such as <a href="https://www.womensaid.org.uk/">Women’s Aid</a> to challenge domestic abuse and violence, agitated for equal pay and, more fundamentally still, demanded greater control for women over their own fertility.</p>
<p>In 1961, the contraceptive pill was first made available. In 1968, the Abortion Act made it legal to terminate a pregnancy. And in 1974, health authorities were given permission to prescribe the contraceptive pill to unmarried women. The marriage rate <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/news/datablog/2010/feb/11/marriage-rates-uk-data">promptly began to fall</a>, and continued to do so steadily from its 1970 peak of nearly 60% before stabilising at around 20% at the turn of the century.</p>
<p>It seems that when marriage and raising babies becomes optional rather than inevitable, many women will choose to prioritise other things (I know – imagine!). Today, those couples who still marry do so an average of more than a <a href="https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/marriagecohabitationandcivilpartnerships/bulletins/marriagesinenglandandwalesprovisional/2016#the-average-age-at-marriage-continued-to-rise">decade later </a>than they did in 1970. The average age of having a first baby has climbed from 23.7 in 1970 to 28.8 in 2016, and the <a href="https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/livebirths/bulletins/birthsbyparentscharacteristicsinenglandandwales/2016" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">same statistics</a> show that more than half of first-time UK births are now to parents aged over 30.</p>
<p>And as well as (or in my case because of) starting later, we are also having fewer children: nearly half of households never have <a href="https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/families/bulletins/familiesandhouseholds/2017">more than one</a>. Only <a href="https://webarchive.nationalarchives.gov.uk/20160105222310/http:/www.ons.gov.uk/ons/rel/family-demography/family-size/2012/family-size-rpt.html">one in seven</a> families has three or more.</p>
<p>In 1974, the year the birth control pill became available to unmarried women, the British birth rate fell below the replacement level of 2.1 children per woman, where it has remained ever since. Nor is this phenomenon confined to Britain, where in 2018, the rate was <a href="https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/livebirths/bulletins/birthsummarytablesenglandandwales/2018">1.7 live births per woman</a>. In 2017, the overall fertility rate across the EU was <a href="https://ec.europa.eu/eurostat/statistics-explained/index.php/Fertility_statistics">1.59 babies per woman</a>.</p>
<div class="ref-ar"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/has-hungary-conceived-a-baby-boom/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/has-hungary-conceived-a-baby-boom/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><img decoding="async" src="https://unherd.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/GettyImages-141999471.jpg?w=300" /></a><div class="content"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/has-hungary-conceived-a-baby-boom/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span class="meta">Suggested reaidng</span></a><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/has-hungary-conceived-a-baby-boom/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><h5>Has Hungary conceived a baby boom?</h5></a><p class="author"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/has-hungary-conceived-a-baby-boom/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span>By</span> Paul Morland</a></p></div></a></div>
<p>So did feminism kill the birth rate? Actually, no. Though antifeminists are often keen to blame dwindling fertility on <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2285554/I-selfish-set-ways-child-43-An-astonishing-confession-mother-wont-daughter-swimming-case-ruins-pedicure.html">the selfishness of modern women</a>, it is more accurate to say that liberal individualism killed the birth rate.</p>
<p>The liberal individualism at the heart of modern civilisation, as elaborated perhaps most influentially by <a href="https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/locke-political/">John Locke</a>, views us as free, rational and equal to all other individuals. The liberal individual is autonomous, in command of his body, and in possession of natural rights including liberty. And for a long time, it was a boys’ club from which women were excluded, because we were instead expected to represent all the spare bits of human nature left out of the Lockean vision of the ideal person.</p>
<p>For as well as having the capacity for logical thought, humans are deeply irrational. We are not disembodied rational consciousnesses but <a href="https://humanorigins.si.edu/education/introduction-human-evolution">evolved animals</a>, with instincts developed over millions of years. And we are not <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Atomism_(social)">atomised individuals</a> but <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2527715/">inherently social</a>.</p>
<p>But these other aspects of human nature get palmed-off on women. As Simone de Beauvoir <a href="https://uberty.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/1949_simone-de-beauvoir-the-second-sex.pdf">observed</a>, men have historically defined women as ‘Other’ — that is, as whatever men did not wish to be. So as liberal individualism gained in dominance, those men who embraced it did so in large part by celebrating their own superior rationality, autonomy and command of their mortal flesh against a stereotype of women as irrational, childlike in their dependence and hopelessly addled by emotionality and the concerns of the body.</p>
<p>It is no coincidence that the modern democratic political project, which is premised on the capacity of each individual for reason and judgement, excluded women. Women’s allotted role was to serve as cultural dumping-ground for all the spare bits of human nature, such as animal instinct and strength of feeling, whose persistence compromised the arguments for enfranchisement. So it must have seemed only natural that the rights due to a rational Enlightenment subject should be denied to women.</p>
<div class="ref-ar"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/02/will-britain-join-the-european-baby-push/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/02/will-britain-join-the-european-baby-push/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><img decoding="async" src="https://unherd.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/GettyImages-1181677451-e1582132817213.jpg?w=300" /></a><div class="content"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/02/will-britain-join-the-european-baby-push/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span class="meta">Suggested reaidng</span></a><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/02/will-britain-join-the-european-baby-push/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><h5>Will Britain join the European baby push?</h5></a><p class="author"><a href="https://unherd.com/2020/02/will-britain-join-the-european-baby-push/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span>By</span> Colin Brazier</a></p></div></a></div>
<p>Then, the Women’s Liberation movement turned liberal individualism from an instrument of women’s oppression into a central plank of our liberation. If the Lockean individual is autonomous, rational and possesses natural rights, why should women not also claim that rationality, enjoy that autonomy and exercise those rights?</p>
<p>Well, quite. But this is where we get to the birth rate. If, as feminists, we accept as a core premise the liberal-individualist conception of personhood, it follows that ‘liberation’ must mean liberation from dependence on others, and from our emotional and animal nature.</p>
<p>As <a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/how-motherhood-put-an-end-to-my-liberalism/">I have argued elsewhere</a>, having a baby cuts radically across the liberal conception of personhood. Motherhood tends to makes us more emotional and in need of social connection, even as we find ourselves suddenly inhabiting a ballooning, leaky body over which we only have the most marginal control. It is astonishing how much of feminism <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/may/26/is-motherhood-the-unfinished-work-of-feminism">has a conflicted relationship to motherhood</a>. But perhaps it should not be surprising, given that it is very difficult to be entirely free and also have dependent children.</p>
<p>In policy terms, it is clear that feminist liberation is understood as in tension with motherhood. In the 2019 election, every major political party competed to show they were thinking of women’s interests — mostly via subsidised childcare. While this may be of practical benefit to many, it is telling that family policy understands ‘choice’ to mean subsidising childcare, and offers little support for parents who choose to look after their own offspring.</p>
<p>As well as marginalising motherhood, conflating feminism with liberal individualism is increasingly producing mixed messages. As ever more of the great battles for equality are won, the feminist remit is getting wider and less coherent —including everything from <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ecofeminism" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">environmentalism</a> to Palestinian rights. The definition of ‘woman’ is receiving the same treatment. We are now expected to include males in the definition, if they say they are women, or be labelled reactionary bigots.</p>
<p>And none of this is doing anything to make space for the spare bits of human nature left out of the liberal ideal. Now that we are all rational, autonomous individuals, who carries the can for our embodied, social and emotional aspects? Today, the messy stuff either still gets dumped on women as a <a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/why-liberal-feminists-dont-care/">‘second shift’ </a>or outsourced to — you guessed it — poorer women. Small wonder we are putting off becoming that messy, leaky, animalistic and shamefully dependent Other.</p>
<div class="ref-ar"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/how-motherhood-put-an-end-to-my-liberalism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/how-motherhood-put-an-end-to-my-liberalism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><img decoding="async" src="https://unherd.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/GettyImages-842399018.jpg?w=300" /></a><div class="content"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/how-motherhood-put-an-end-to-my-liberalism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span class="meta">Suggested reaidng</span></a><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/how-motherhood-put-an-end-to-my-liberalism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><h5>How motherhood put an end to my liberalism</h5></a><p class="author"><a href="https://unherd.com/2019/10/how-motherhood-put-an-end-to-my-liberalism/?edition=us&#038;ref=refinnar" class="text-decoration-none border-0"><span>By</span> Mary Harrington</a></p></div></a></div>
<p>Does it matter? There is <a href="https://www.ft.com/content/36bfc242-bd8a-11e8-94b2-17176fbf93f5">much talk</a> today of what we can and should do to ensure the survival of liberal democracy. Liberal democracy is the political expression of liberal individualism. But liberalism seems to be liberating women from willingness to give birth to new liberals, at least in sufficient numbers to keep liberal populations static across generations. Does it not follow from this that either liberalism must adapt, or else liberals — and their democracies — must, in the end, die out?</p>
<p>This should worry anyone who recognises (as we should) that women’s sex-specific interests still need advocacy. It may not have been feminism that killed the birth rate so much as the conflation of feminism with liberal individualism, but you can bet your bottom dollar it will be women who get the blame. The reaction of misogynists to the waning of fertility in Western liberal cultures is less likely to be a critique of the liberal conception of personhood, than a concerted effort to stuff women back into our pre-feminist role as hysterical, flesh-bound, dependent and fecund Other to the rational male subject.</p>
<p>How are we to resolve this? If we are not to watch our worldview expire or else invite the grandfather of all antifeminist backlashes, we need to address the heart of the problem: our impoverished understanding of ideal personhood. To put it another way, we need to make more space for emotion, social bonds and our evolved nature as embodied creatures. This goes not just for women, but for everyone. We need to allow love and the body back into the way we see human nature.</p>
<p>If we managed this, what then would women’s political interests look like? Or men’s, for that matter? Would we still see rationality and freedom as the only important values? How might we rethink our social, economic or ecological priorities? These are questions worth asking.</p>
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